Dating with pets

I personally would never ask someone to get rid of their dogs. It’s sad to me that some people are so okay with just giving their dogs up. So in my opinion, I say it’d be selfish to ask him to do that for you.

If he’s like me, which it sounds like he is, those dogs are his babies. And i don’t think you’d like it very much if he asked you to get rid of your baby for his dogs’ sake.

I agree people change in relationships, but this isn’t a partying problem or the way he dresses. You’re wanting him to get rid of part of his family.

What that being said, If you don’t see yourself coming to terms with living with two big dogs in the future, then don’t waste his time or yours.

It sounds like you two are at an impasse. While I completely see your side of the situation, I can also understand him not wanting to get rid of his pets. I know I personally would not give up my pets for a relationship. I think you have to decide if the dogs are a dealbreaker for you. It sounds like him giving up his dogs is a dealbreaker for him.

1st talking about hypotheticals is crazy especially the dogs. You already don't want both dogs there so it's in your best interest to leave and find someone else. 2nd how would you feel if he kept asking when the bio father will take your baby for the week and always wanting bio father to take child so he doesn't have to be around the baby so much. That's crazy. I would never ask someone to get rid of their fufbabies

I think you’re being intense. Especially when you want to get a service dog down the road. Unless those dogs are actually aggressive like you’ve witnessed it… then I think you’re making a mountain out of an ant hill.

I would never ask anybody to get rid of their dog & think you're being unreasonable personally. You can't expect someone to change and adapt their lives to accommodate you. Dogs are not just pets, they're a part of your family. I have a dog - and he's my baby, I adore him. And will also adore him when my little man is born in January. I think if you've met a decent man who's willing to take on someone else's child, you should be accepting towards his dogs - two way street.

just because someone gives up their dog doesn’t mean that they are okay with it. I had to choose between neglecting my dog to caring for my child or place them in a better situation with someone else.

Im speaking about you asking him to get rid of his. Not with your situation. I know sometimes people aren’t able to be care for their properly because of situational circumstances.

While I’m open to hearing everyone’s opinion it just amazes me how someone of u are comparing a dog to my human child. Yes dogs are a part of you family but I would never compare them on the same level as a human. Smh it shows how some people treat animals better than they treat people. From the response I can gather that I’m not in a place to trust someone else’s large dogs around my baby. Does that make me a horrible person for questioning our future relationship… no. Am I overreacting by questioning this situation…no. Could I change my mind about this situation in the future… possible. I don’t care how much u love your pets please don’t compare “my child” to a animal with your response. Xoxo

Just because we treat dogs like family doesn’t mean we treat our dogs “better” than our human children. Ignorant comment to say the least.
If you didn’t want people’s honest opinions, then simply don’t ask next time.

I'm with him on this. I wouldn't get rid of my animals for anyone. Y'all may be a good match, but clearly it's a package deal situation.

If it helps, I grew up with large dogs, sometimes multiple at a time and they were my best friends. They were mostly outdoor dogs, but I was mostly outside lol

As long as these dogs are chill energy and shows compassion/kindness to their human companions then I would just gradually introduce them to your child and vice versa. You and your man’s can set up boundaries in regards to where the dogs can be while the child is around 😊 It would be an adjustment for you both, but definitely doable. If you guys are talking marriage and he’s falling in love with not just you but for a child that isn’t his, I would say he’s a keeper and would absolutely move forward with setting up a game plan where you both feel seen and heard. The dogs and your child will be fine, just take it in small steps 😊👍🏽

sweetie I said “people treat animals better than they treat people.” Of course people treat their “own” child “better” but it doesn’t take away from my opinion on the compassion they have toward someone else child.

by far the best response! I’ve always grew up around small dogs and have heard horrible stories about pit bulls and Rottweiler. Have 2 bigs dogs that have already formed a protective relationship over a house and owner will be an adjustment for me and my new baby. Your response does give me hope that with small steps I can overcome these fears I have. 🫶🏼

Ahahah. The dogs absolutely come first. They were here first and they’ll be there when you’re gone.

Call it quits you guys are absolutely not compatibles

I wouldn’t date someone with big rowdy dogs to begin with because I don’t like them. Even so, I would never consider asking someone to give up their pet for a relationship. I don’t feel the same way that the lives and emotions of our pets are less important than our children. Both deserve to be loved and cherished. I also don’t believe people should expect others to change for them in a relationship. People should enter a partnership ready to love each other just the way they are and to grow together. I have never been in a successful relationship where I had ideas like ‘I like this person but I wish they would change xyz about themselves.’

As a mom and dog mom, if someone asked me to get rid of one of my animals that would be the last they’d ever hear from me. Animals are like babies, obv with differences I am not comparing the life of a child to an animal but it’s still unconditional love and something you want to protect. Asking him to get rid of one dog is like asking a mother to get rid of one of her children. It’s just something you do not ask. He has his love for his dogs, you have your love for your child. If they cannot co exist then you go your way and he goes his. If someone said something negative about my child that would be the last time you ever say anything to me again. Those are fine lines not to be crossed.

I would suggest a gradual introduction . Who knows , maybe those rottis protect and adore that baby. I have a rotti mix and he’s so gentle with my son. If he accepts you and your baby, accept him with his and make it work. Establish boundaries.

Maybe you need to seek someone else who doesn't have a dog because it's extremely unfair to expect a person you haven't been with for 5 months to get rid of their dogs.
If you aren't living with the guy, does it really matter?

lol yea because dog can out live humans 😂

lol I remember that post. I forgot who my audience was on this app. 90% of the people on here give the animals the benefit of doubt. They show more compassion for animals than human- beings. All I said was “ I’m not comfortable with 2 full grown Rottweilers around my 7mon old baby.” You would’ve thought I said put the dogs in a shelter by these people responds. Let me not anymore animal relate post 🥴

I have 2 kids 3 and under 5 dogs atm 2 big who are great with my babies and always have been 3 little who I've had/ been around since they were babies the little ones are actually showing more aggression towards my kids than the big ever have, the smallest one actually tried to bite one of my children I gave her a second chance because she has no teeth at the front and she's tried again, so we have made the tough decision that it is time for the big long sleep thought about rehoming but didn't want to take the risk of someone else's child being harmed

Go date a man with no pets and let them know that you intend on getting pets in the near future. In other words move on. Nit fair to ask anyone to give up their animals for you and your child which isn't even theirs.plus if you are so recently single with a small baby still just relax mama and take care of the two of you till you're both in a better place. No need to hurry into a relationship and start giving hyperthetical ultimatums.

Incognito, your a dog hater, that’s fine.
However you are so blinkered by being told “No” you can’t understand the at his loyalty does not lie with YOUR son. Your son is not the centre of everyone else’s world and the quicker you learn that the better for you both.

A dog might be an animal but is is a living being and you can say I don’t want two big dogs around my 7mo alllllll damn day, that’s your choice. Doesn’t mean he has to do what you want.
Leave the man and find yourself a dog hater 😘

You’re a spoiled brat who’s never been told no 🤷🏻‍♀️

your response holds no value to me… Judging by your bothered response, I can tell you would feed a stray dog before you feed a homeless person.
I stop reading when you got “loud” and “wrong” at the “YOUR SON” part. I never said the gender of my child so atp you’re gaslighting me and I’m going to stop while I’m ahead. Good day love

You’re response holds no
Value to me 😂. Why reply then hun? Why waste your time ?

Spoiled princess isn’t getting what she wants so she’s stomping her feet and crying when someone disagrees.

And me accidentally misgendering your child isn’t gaslighting hun.. look it up.

I hope this man leaves your and gutter attitude 👋👋👋👋

I’m trying not to cuss you out on this app. You are trolling hard and I’m about to give you the “gutter” response you are looking for.
The fact that u took the time to google a word I used correctly just proves “my point” on how big of a troll you are.
A red-headed troll with split ends and botched highlights is what you are. You really thought you “ate” with that little definition insert?
Calling me a “dog hater” and misgendering my child made me stop reading your “gaslighting” comment. Go take your trolling ass somewhere else and go clean that “gutter” like counter top you got in that picture. It looks disgustingly dirty. Congratulations on getting this “gutter” response out of me, now go find someone else to play with preferably a dog.

Block me princess 😘

Great attempt at insulting me but unfortunately you’ve failed to offend me.
I’m not trolling. Your a princess, a dog hating. Me, me me princess.
You have a total inability to understand what those words mean.

You are a dog hater, I accidentally misgendered your child who is assuming is female given how horrendously you reacted to a genuine mistake.


But please sweetie, if you want to get personal about appearance, when you incognito.. send me a message showing your face that definitely looks like the underside of a frying pan. 😂😂😂

You are acting like a child. She came here for advice, not to be bullied. She's in a difficult position. She herself did not raise the dogs and that can mean they are unpredictable. It is completely normal to fear your child's safety. I would be concerned if she did not take her child into consideration.
My brother at age 6 was mauled by a small dog at our aunt's home. He was minding his own business playing in the back yard and the dog attacked him. His face and ears required plastic surgery. He also broke his arm trying to protect himself.
You are just a HATER.

Okay. Thankyou for that input morgan. Really changed my feelings towards this whole comment. 🙄

whatever, bitch.

Ooh fiesty. 😂

thank you for being understanding of my question and situation. I’ve never had a big dog before… I’m not opposed to having a large dog but I prefer to have one as a puppy. I keep thinking what if these dogs wake up and turn on me and my baby? I can handle protecting her against one threat but 2 big ass dog is scary. I’m sorry about your brother. That situation would traumatize me 😩

Em is having a bad day jheezzeee. Girl chill out shes here asking a question doesn't need to be hated on