Mil bought my baby her first Halloween outfit how do I put stop to this

I mean to me this sounds ungrateful. You already got her one so just let her wear that then put the gifted one on after for a picture for your MIL. Sounds like she was just doing a nice thing in my opinion. If it’s really upsetting you then just say you appreciate the gesture but it means a lot to you to get your baby “first” things so can she please consider that 🤷🏽‍♀️

I think you're taking it too personal , tell her thank you and put the outfit you bought on her first. Take pictures ect.( I am a mommy going on 5 kiddos. ) but I also remember the overwhelming overprotective of having the first baby. Feeling like you wanted to be the first one to notice every get every to share with people.
It would be different if she bought an outfit and demanded she had to wear it for a family gathering/ event. But just seeing something and thinking of your little one . Be greatful

I don’t think it overly matters as she can wear both just put yours on for the 31st. First Xmas if she buys an outfit save it for lunch at nanas or New Year’s Day/Xmas eve and wear yours Xmas day. I think with this issue I wouldn’t worry about it.

I would put the bought outfit on in the days before Halloween and snap a quick photo to send your MIL. You already have an adorable outfit you chose for the day so don't feel guilted out of putting that on your baby for any actual Halloween celebrations.

Personally I wouldn't say anything other than what cute an outfit it was when sending the photo to your MIL. Having an extra dress-up opportunity doesn't hurt anyone, and your MIL probably had fun picking it out. Sometimes you have to pick your battles 🤷

For everyone saying she’s ungrateful y’all maybe there’s other things that’
Have made her feel this way and this is just the cherry on top.
don’t be so quick to judge mamas

I get why so many people say use both and snap a picture. I’m sure she was being nice. But there is nothing wrong with saying you already have a costume. She is an adult and that happens. People buy gifts you already have and she should be able to get her money back and buy something else if she wants.
There is nothing wrong with feeling like she’s had her firsts and this is your turn. That doesn’t make you ungrateful and I hate reading thoughts that you are. If you don’t appreciate anything she does, sure THEN be more considerate of her feelings, but I’m not getting that from your post.

Maybe tell her “i love the outfit you got (baby) and I hate that I have to tell you I already have one. I feel so loved that you think of us. It’s easy to get excited about (baby’s) firsts. I’m pretty excited too, so I actually have everything planned for most of her first holidays.

My MIL does my nut in and she got my first daughter a ‘my first Halloween outfit’ but that really didn’t bother me as she goes through so many outfit changes anyway! As she was over the day before Halloween she wore hers then and one of my chosen outfits on actual Halloween. I understand it can be frustrating (my SIL is obsessed with buying my girls matching outfits when it’s not something I’m overly into) but as my MIL also got a dress for my daughter to wear for her first birthday when I’d already gotten her 2 I can understand your frustration as I felt the same. I was so annoyed when she gave it to us the week before but I just swapped halfway through the celebration - she had a day dress and a party dress. But it is gut wrenching I know and I fully sympathise with you x

Just thank her baby can wear both

Ew. My mil does this; things that seem really nice but there’s always an edge to it. Like there’s always a slightly negative thing to every nice thing she does. It’s lovely that she bought your child an outfit but she took away your first Halloween outfit with your child- which in my opinion is spiteful. I would politely say ‘thanks but we don’t need a Halloween costume, I’ve already got it sorted’

thank you much.. You're prob.great empathetic mom. Yes there's so much nd I can't keep typing up essays before a question.. I thought it's assumed in such a group.. Thank you again

yes exactly and I didn't have to explain how she is... From the eneshment to feeing entitled always over my first time motherhood experience even though she's Had hr chances with her kids

that's really big of you.. For me it's the principle....she constantly wants to rob me of my experiences and I don't want to let her gt away with it.... He had her life doifnalll of it

thank you so much 🙏🏽.... Your read into it is correct.... I've been more than appreciative of her actions in the past which just gve her Lee way into thinking she's the third spouse and parent. And I'm upset with her constant robbing of my experiences and thinking of herself..

Thank you ill say something along those lines..

As for the comments... I won't even bother to respond since they didn't bother to think more and be empathetic . Because clearly my question was asking for advice on what to say and assumed such a group know why most of us are in the group for and type of mil experiences

it's a onesie tht says my first Halloween and then cute hat... O so not something extrvgnt. I cnt be big in this situation because she constantly oversteps. So I won't enable it.. Sorry my keyboard is broken on my phone lol

yes definitely cherry on top and so this is why I want to Put a halt and set a boundary.. Thank you

Thanks all for input.. There's Def bck story I assume as most on this group.... S this is why I dnt wanna enable it

Hope you’re ok. I’d put baby in your Halloween outfit for any parties they go to and Halloween day itself and your MIL’s outfit on baby any other day in October :-) xx

I apologize if you took my thoughts as being negative or you not being greatful to your mil. I was just stating my opinion because as mother I grew.

I was afraid on anyone breathing on my birthday child. Now I guess I'm more late back. If they want the baby they can hold it for however long ect. Enjoy memories

My MIL is amazing, she takes my side over her sons everytime. I never had a negative interaction with her. My own mother can stay in her own lanes thats why I dont see her.

I don’t understand what’s the issue … halloween is literally celebrated for a a whole month. She could wear yours first and then her grandmas another day. This is absolutely ridiculous. Halloween is not even a special occasion 🤦‍♀️

So I feel like saying you don’t quite understand and asking for a backstory is cool. Saying how you can relate but grew. Suggesting not to make a big deal because picking battles is important.
But some other comments make me sad… I like this app because the guidelines are different than other social media. The guidelines say we are to be kind, inclusive, create a safe space. Not judge - if you are going to judge do so privately. Give advice not negative comments.

I asked what I could say. Not if u think it's right.. I hoped ppl in this group had sufficient deduction skills to know there's more to it... But I guess not

thanks Jamie.. I was so exhausted and still am because I do everything at home and so I couldn't type back story. then I just wanted advice by fellow moms who seem to be going through similar things regarding mil.. That's why I asked what I could say not anything else..

Thanks again.. Your kid(s) are Lucky

oh that's nice she takes your side. Mine makes excuses for mine.. He's never helped me wuth house or baby and she still babies my hubby

You bought her one, but your annoyed your MIL also bought one?

Genuine question btw. I feel a bit confused about the issue your having x

Sorry I’ve just read your comments and I understand why your annoyed.
It’s not the onsie it’s the stepping on your toes!

Just have her wear the mil costume on Halloween & take her over to show her & get hugs & pictures but for the main Halloween event have her wear your choosing. Or have her wear the other costume the days leading up to Halloween.

Thankyou 🥹
And I bet you’re a wonderful mother as well it’s your baby and you want to be the one that shows her everything and give her the first everything I get it
And exactly it should be assumed there’s more to the story and even if there wasn’t you are entitled to feel a certain way for YOUR baby cause she’s yours and family can be excited and happy but they also need to be thinking of how it may make you feel I’ve been through it and it’s hard Ppl feel so entitled to our children and it’s great ppl love our babies but also they don’t belong to them they’re little people and there’s still boundaries and lines not to cross idk if I made any sense I just want you to know you’re not saying or feeling anything wrong family can be crazy don’t listen to the comments 💕💕💕

Have your husband say thank you so much but we’ve already made a plan for their Halloween outfit. Or he can say thank you we’re actually dressing up the baby as something else that we’ve already planned but we’re happy to take a picture in this for you.

You don’t have to use anything she buys. If she wants to waste her money that’s fine😅 I gave away most of what mine bought

“Thank you so much for the Halloween outfit! If you see pictures of him in a different one, it’s because we already bought him one before we received yours! We appreciate the gesture but obviously are embracing these firsts with our baby so ended up getting it ourselves.”