Late speaker

I have a 3 and a half year old. His vocabulary on individual words is good. If you ask him what something is or whats going on he can tell you in 4 words sentances but only if asked questions. He requests things with 1 word and when frustrated it turns into unidentifiable words.

How do I help? We dont qualify for ST but looking into some private sessions but its super pricey but I want to help any way I can.

Anyone has a child that spoke late. I feel alone in this. I am trying everything and don't know what to do now. 😩

I may have to pick up a second job to enroll in speech

Ps. I have posted this with no response. Hoping for any positive outcomes or anything. Thanks

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I would try to gently encourage using a full sentence when he asks for something. Sometimes my LO just points and I ask her what she wants(Definitely not just retrieving the object even if it's obvious!). If she says "juice", I say alright how do we ask for juice? Sometimes she'll get frustrated and just shout the word again repeatedly and I'll say "No thank you I don't need you to yell(and comfort if needed) I'll help, we say: "Mama"(pause for her to repeat), please may I have(pause again) my juice?(allow for repeat)" Then I'll say "Yes!!! We say mama please may I have some juice! Thank you for asking me so nicely here you go." After lots of repetition and gentle correction my LO has really improved with that.

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Yeah it's very common for a child to not really speak until 4-4.5 years old. Even 5. He's shy. He's processing a lot. Could do flash cards at home, is he in daycare? This is a very common trait in toddlers. 4-14 kids in my daughter's room currently don't really speak whatsoever. They'll get there on their own time & it'll be day n night like šŸ‘€ you could speak that whole time? Lol

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yes he can label and do flahcards but still working on combining words. Thanks for putting this in perspective. I keep hoping I'll wake up with a LO speaking loads. Well he does, but this doesn't always make sense or is understood by others

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thanks. Even though it sounds simple , it is something I need to work on.

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definitely something I'm working on! I used to always give things without requests or words. Thanks for the examples. It helped me understand how I should be speaking to him a bit better

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