Setting boundaries with a 2yr old

Hey mams, I'm hoping someone might be able to help (or make me feel this is normal). My LG is tantrum central the second she doesn't get her own way, but I'm struggling to know when to set boundaries. I feel like she runs the house, chooses what she wants on TV (when it's on), refuses to eat 90% of meals we make...everything is an argument, and I've probably given her too much choice (to save my sanity), but how do I set boundaries with her about food, TV, play time, when the rest of my family would literally let her eat cake and sweets if she refused her food? I feel like I'm just going to end up the strict no fun parent. And I'm worried it'll just be arguments for nothing when everyone else let's her do what she wants. Any advice or anyone in the same situation would be great to hear. Thank you!

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First of all, you are not alone. My 17 month rules our home (and the homes of anyone she visits 🤣)
I’ve now got a 9 week old in addition to her and the battles are becoming so much harder and I’m definitely losing my temper a lot more, which I hate because I never wanted to be “that” kinda mum.
My best and only advice would be to stick to a routine, despite the environment but for this you have to have everyone on your team. So speak to your family and any caregivers, tell them you aren’t coping when you’re alone so a new schedule needs to be enforced. If they don’t want to stick to it then tell them you can’t bring your little one to them anymore.
You have to do what’s best for you.
I’m still at home with my little girl but she was being looked after by my mum when I had to briefly go back to work but I set out her routine and told my mum to stick to it. Fortunately she eats and sleeps pretty well still, as for the tantrums and kick offs 😩 the TV is hers if it makes her happy 🙈

@Sophia my LG also hates her pram and screams like that too 😅 its just such a juggle isn't it! So glad to know I'm not alone! 💜

@Lizzie it's funny because before she was born, I said how important it was that the whole family is on the same page...unfortunately my inlaws will do anything to undermine me, but we need them for childcare when im at work, so I'm literally stuck. My husband is too scared to disturb the peace, and I have no family close by. When she gets her nursery hours, it'll be different as we won't rely on them as much, but it's not helping at the minute. My only saving grace is that she normally sleeps like a gem! But I still want to try to and enforce as much as I can...but I agree TV can be a lifesaver 😅

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