Single Mums with 3+ kids, how do you make time for yourself to feel good?

I’m just 25, feeling 40 🫠 I never have time to wear make up like I used to, my hair always just tied back pony tail with frizz and just baby hair everywhere at the front.. haven’t had my hair done in over a year (last time I did I got so emotional and cried).. i don’t take photos of myself anymore there’s just been no point..i just want to feel good again😭 i have a 1,2 and 8 year old no support from nobody 🫠

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I feel like I could have written this. I'm 26, have a 6, 2 and 4 month old and an a single parent. When my oldest is at school, my middle is at nursery for 3 hours a day and my youngest just likes to sleep, feed, roll, and watch me. I won't lie I use the TV as a baby sitter now and then so I can finish a hot drink. X

I know that feeling. Only way I figure I can make more time for myself is to dedicate a bit of time to feeling good with a bath and pamper when the kids are in bed and then waking up before the kids in the morning to start getting ready. X

I've got a 2 and 7 month old. I've lost loads of weight as I'm constantly on the go with them and breastfeeding but just hiding behind any cloths that I can breastfeed in. Hair scraped back, just like you. Can't even remember when I last had my hair cut and I don't know how I would find time to book an appointment either. Hopefully it nice baby boy has reduced his boob feeds a bit more 🤷🏼‍♀️

I try to have a bath once a week just for a bit of relaxation once they're both in bed. Luckily, I don't really see anyone so it doesn't really matter what I look like 😅 xx

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Love my husband. Love my kids. But…

I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

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