Am I overreacting? Long one!

In order to go my partner now is planning a 2 day trip! Drive 2h stay in a hotel, do the other 2h:30 the next day. Stay for 4 days and the same journey back. Feels too much for someone who does not make an effort and wants me to put my baby in this situation and make an effort for them??? I should add she always sends me bday card and gift and etc, but we have barely spoken 50 words to each other in the last 3/4 years. She is a weird woman. Barely speaks. Very awkward. My grandma in law though used to be lovely, so chatty, always texting, always messaging while I was pregnant etc etc etc. and hasn’t messaged in 9 MONTHS at all. But will text my partner saying “could you ask Xxx to send me the video she posted on Facebook?” Why not ask me directly???? Feels like I provided them with the first grandchild and great grandchild and that was it, out of the pic. Yet they also NEVER make the first call or text. Every single time we FaceTime (every couple of weeks, it is my partner calling…

I wouldn’t want to go but I think I would for my partner. My LO hates being in the car too but we usually leave super early in the morning so that she is asleep for the ride. Have you tried that? Or putting a show on? Your partner needs to man up and talk with his mom about sending her money and limit communication with her if she’s feeding him sob stories. He could say this is the last month he’s sending it to her if she doesn’t get a job.
If she can lay down at her big age to make kids, she needs to get a job to support them. If someone was willing to send me $200 a month, I’d keep asking for it too?
If you think she should put an effort in to come see you guys, your partner needs to communicate that to her.
I don’t think you should keep your baby away from his family because you don’t like her, you sacrifice and find a way to make it work. You and the baby will be okay for those 4 days, a 4 hour drive isn’t that long.

Okay, if she will get sick and be inconsolable in a car… it’s not worth it at all.. tell your husband they can go to you or nothing is happening… they accommodate the baby not the other way around

I also agree with Alayna and think even though I understand why you don’t want to go, it’s unfair on your husband and your little girl to keep her away from your family just because you don’t like her/them.

You may go on holiday abroad at some point which is the same amount (or longer) of travelling time, and your daughter may feel the same but I’m sure it would be worth it then because it’s something you would all like to do as a family, and his family will also recognise that if/when it happens!

I think your husband should talk to his mum or his bro’s about the money sitch as he is the only one she asks - I think she should get a job like the rest of us 😂. But for whatever reason she can’t then they all could all chip in with helping her out each month aswell to take the burden off your fam, the responsibility shouldn’t all fall on your partner. However, I would do the same for my mum and I’m sure your little girl would do for you because she loves you xxx

Same girl my Mil lives 4 hrs away (also my mom, so it doesnt bother me cuz I want my mother to bond with my baby) I just give my baby snacks and play ms rachel but she crys a lot aswell🥲😩 also my mil is 50 and has 7 kids🤣 and she never has money but trows partys for more than 10 people?? I just cant stand her playing victim always complainig about her kids not helping her with money

Also she always talks about me not having a job when mu priority is taking care of my baby and mu husband knew that since we met, it seem like she only cares about money