So, just reaching out for some opinions on this issue. Background to the story, the father of my child and I are currently not in a relationship. We decided to go visit his family in Georgia for Thanksgiving. The father is currently living in Washington, and I am living in El Paso. I agreed to the trip because he stated he will pay for my flight. The plan was originally for him to fly to a Paso, and for us to fly together to Georgia, he then proceeded to tell me he was having financial issues because of a possible government shut down, I then decided to offer to pay for my ticket to help him with the cost.
I then started looking up flights from different airlines, and found a great deal on Southwest, I then brought it up and asked him if it was fine if he could pay for my ticket since I drop the price down to almost more than half. He agreed to pay for my ticket.
We then changed plans and decided that he will fly directly from Washington to Georgia, and I will flight by myself with my daughter from El Paso to Georgia. She bought the tickets however, mine was not included, his explanation was that he felt there was no need for him to buy my ticket since we were not flying together anymore.
For me, I feel a bit confused because we already had the agreement of him buying my ticket. Also, I am spending time away from my family to go spend time with his family for the holidays. I felt that it was the right thing to do, for him to buy my ticket
Now we are arguing because he thinks I should be paying for my own way
Any opinions? Am I wrong for expecting him to pay for my ticket?
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I totally understand what your saying. The agreement should still stand because that was the initial plan. Even if your not flying together he still could have paid half. Makes no sense to say since we aren't flying together pay for your own. I wouldn't go at this point tbh.

exactly, like it was circumstantial the way he was going to offer to pay for my ticket.
And it’s also just the gesture behind it of him wanting to pay for my ticket.
He accused me of not helping him with his ticket when he came last time to visit us. And hello he stayed at my place for 2+ weeks free without asking him for anything
And we weren’t together… like my goodness i think it’s very selfish on his part

@Natali yah it is selfish because if he had to come get your daughter and return her would cost alot more on his end.

He needs to pay for yours and your daughter ticket. You’re doing a favor for him and HIS family. End of convo.

facts

Since I’ve posted this, he proceeded to tell me that i didn’t offer to pay for his gas for him to drive down to El Paso when our daughter was going to be born 🙃

I am not sure where things went south with this, and I know I don’t ask for much but I feel that he is just too selfish

Pleaseeee. Did he pay for the gas for all the doctor visits you took for your daughter? Or the trips to the store? Like come on, this is ridiculous. I’m glad you see through it. He can help a little, men are meant to provide and protect. Flying with a baby is no easy feat.

At least you’ll get to spend the holidays with your family!

sad part, i chose this trip over the one my family was going on so I’ll be spending it by my self 😅

nope never did pay
He was never really present during my pregnancy
I think he wants to be provided for and taken care of and not give anything in return

@Natali damn you live and learn boo, don't beat your self up. Hopefully u can hang with some friends and you and your baby girl won't be alone.

Appreciate you all reaching out with your responses🫶🏽💕