Prayer Request

Hi friends, I’m reaching out for prayer requests for my family. My son’s dad left me 3 weeks before he was born for another woman, though he shows up daily and watches the baby while I’m at work/has 2 overnights a week and is a really good father.

I began working on moving on right away out of pride and hurt ego. I was humbled very quickly by God who called me to be obedient to Him and be patient while He worked in my son’s dad’s life. Since then, I have seen so many heavy things drop in my son’s dad’s life. He got in a car crash and totaled his car leaving her house, was fired bc he showed up at his job with her (he had a terrible boss honestly), broke his hand while being uninsured building her daughter a playground. List goes on and on. It’s jaw dropping to see how many times God has reached out to my son’s dad and how many times he continues to ignore God.

I want to add that I have no clue what God’s plan is for our family. I have faith that if God wants to, He will restore us. But my primary focus is on being obedient to His commands and letting Him work his plan for me and my family according to His path and His Glory.

All I ask for is prayers for my son’s father that he may find his way back to God soon and prayers that our family remains strong together no matter what we ultimately look like.

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Praying 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

You have to get scriptures and build your case to Hod. Enter into his presence with Thanksgiving and with a grateful heart. And then worship Him spend time with Him and then go in and intercede for kids dad and also declare over his life that he’s a mighty man of valor. He’s a prayer warrior. He’s a prayer warrior. Get scriptures on salvation and family. You can also Google them and speak those make them personal for your female and then Thank God for doing it for you.

“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”
— ‭‭Jeremiah‬ ‭29‬:‭11‬‬

And then expect it to come to pass but just know that things will seem harder or discouraging but that’s just the enemy trying to steal the word being planted

“The seeds that fell on the footpath represent those who hear the message, only to have the devil come and take it away from their hearts and prevent them from believing and being saved.”
— ‭‭Luke‬ ‭8‬:‭12‬‬

God bless you Hanna!

Will absolutely be praying ❤️ When we pray, it’s not to convince God or build a case to Him but to inherit His heart for what we are praying for and partner with Him in agreement, and obedience just like you mentioned. He loves him and is always faithful to give every opportunity - you standing in faithfulness and obedience to God will be a witness to your son’s father and the way you love will reveal God’s love to him ❤️ Just keep putting Him as your priority, getting into the Word, and inheriting His heart and you’ll see the fruit of your labor 💕

Thank you!!

Thank you! Will make sure to add this into my daily prayer routine 🤍 God bless you!!!!!

Thank you! My biggest battle now is how I stand and be a witness for my son’s dad. Constantly negotiating if the enemy is pushing me to react or of God is calling me to provide a message! 🤍

The way you walk out your life even in the little things and the ways that you do respond according to His Spirit are a testament to who He is ❤️ As long as you are keeping your eyes on Him and growing in knowing Him intimately then you will not need to strive to witness to your son’s dad - it will become an overflow by how you live.

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Cheating 😭

I cheated on my partner of 3 years the other day, our baby is nearly 2. I feel completely awful about it. It was not a planned thing, just an in the moment situation. No excuses or justification, it was wrong. He knows exactly what happened and it’s hurt him so bad. I really want to make it work with my partner and he does with me. We’re so young and in our early 20s. I’m just so worried things will go wrong. Has anyone else been able to make a relationship work after infidelity? 😭

Avoidant husband

I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!