Night sleep SOS

I am becoming desperate and fustrated. I have tried the huckleberry app, I have tried reading different techniques. It takes me 3 hours to get my daughter to bed. Multiple attempts. Multiple feeds (EBF)
I am loosing my mind here. I am tired, I don’t want to go to bed at 3 am every night but I don’t know what to do. She has 3 naps a day, sometimes they are 20 minutes sometimes they are 1.5 hrs. She won’t sleep longer than a few hours at night, she’s up 2 -3 times for night feeds but only gets 9-10 hours of night sleep altogether. Tonight I have put her to bed 7 times. Each time she has been asleep and then instantly wakes up or within a few minutes and cries or wants to play. My husband looks at me like I’m the worst mom ever because I can’t even get my daughter to sleep.

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I use a pacifier to help my daughter sleep. Usually she wakes up a few times during the night, I give her a few minutes to find her pacifier. If she can't, then I'll help her.

I use brown noise on my phone to help her sleep.

She'll fuss for sometimes up to an hour. I try not to sooth her as much anymore. I let her fuss and turn until she actually starts getting frustrated, and then I know she's tired and wants to sleep. Then I feed her a bottle until she doesn't want it and then give her, her soother and then she's good from there.

Night times and even morning, afternoon and evening times are tough. You're doing your best. At least you're trying ❤️

Have you tried getting your husband to put the baby to bed? Babies always want mom so having him do it might help. Have you tried switching to bottles at night to see if they are even hungry or just using it for comfort? Pacifiers have been a huge help with my kids.

You can hire a sleep consultant that will work with you and your baby specifically. I know friends who have and say it changed their lives. It's expensive but might be worth it at this point.

You got this!!

I used rested mama happy baby sleep training! They say you can have babies sleep through the night within the first 3 days! Mine started sleeping through the night on night 2 and regressions aren’t bad, wake ups maybe 2-3X. It’s association fading - so gentle sleep training!

she won’t take bottles anymore unfortunately, she went through a period of not liking pacifiers either but maybe I can try introducing it again. 😩

Hi! Not sure where you are with introducing solids, however a meal late in the evening might keep her fuller for longer and help her fall asleep/stay asleep. You got this!

I try, if she’s not ready I keep it dark just a pink light on, and put her in her crib with toys to play and turn her mobile on. When she cry’s I try again. I just keep repeating until she’s ready. I also limit screen time 2hours before bed. I find that helps.

Mine won’t take a pacifier or bottles either.

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Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.