Pumping before birth

I will be exclusively pumping (as long as I produce enough). I’ve heard you can start pumping before the baby is born but I’ve never pumped or breast fed before. I’m 36 weeks, what do I do?

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Are there any breastfeeding classes near you? That helped me to learn what to do

I found a local lactation Consultant who is helping me. Not super expensive either. I paid $50 for an hour appointment and I got alot of information. I'll be breast feeding and pumping.

I will have to look to if I can find one near me, I just want to make sure I can produce enough and if starting to pump now will help I want to. With my son he wouldn’t latch and I didn’t produce enough

My OB absolutely is against pumping before birth. It can cause extreme contractions which can make baby’s heart rate dangerously increase if you are not monitored closely. The only time they allow it is if you are being induced and baby is hooked up to monitoring ☺️

I was told not to pump at all until birth since nipple stimulation can cause labor. They did tell me i can hand squeeze to collect colostrum if i have some

I am 39w + 3 and have been pumping colostrum since 38w. I just googled and used YouTube lol

Pumping does cause contractions I didn’t start until I was 37-3 days. And I had my baby 37-4 days haha so wouldn’t recommend if not adleast 37 weeks.

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This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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