I think my relationship is over 😞

Have you tried having sex or having date nights? Xx

I've tried making myself feel sexy (new underwear, etc etc), and asked him to come to bed (I always go to bed before him, and he usually ends up falling asleep on the sofa) said night, but nope. He just falls asleep on the sofa.
We have an away date night booked for 3 ISH weeks time, nice hotel etc, but I honestly don't know how I feel about it now. Feeling so down, unwanted, like we're friends rather than lovers

thank you. I have suggested counselling in the past. I got knocked down though, and told maybe I should just go back myself (I saw a counsellor 15 ago for depression and relationship abuse towards me).
It has been a while since I've suggested it though, maybe I should try suggesting it again.

I’d sit him down and have a serious, open and honest conversation about where ur both at in terms of the relationship. Tell him exactly how ur feeling. If ur making the effort to initiate things in the bedroom and he’s still falling asleep on the sofa, either there’s something going on that ur not aware of (maybe stress, depression, erectile dysfunction, etc) or he’s checked out of the relationship, in which case u need to know.
If he’s shot u down before when you’ve suggested counselling, it sounds like u really need to lay it on the line to him.
Relationships take effort and it has to come from both of u. I hope he opens up to u, whatever the outcome because living in limbo is worse than knowing the worst (if that makes sense) as it’s driving down ur confidence and self esteem.

Sending you light. Is he in a good place or dealing with a lot of stress? Do you think there is someone else? Have you been disrespecting him?
Take a step back and look inward before concluding love. I hope you make it to the trip it will be good for you both to reconnect and have deep convo or not.

I’m sorry I know it’s tough when things are hard I like to try and make time for us as a couple, solo and as a family I try to do one of each every month because it’s important to have balance especially after having a baby but we’re important as individuals and as a couple see if he’s open to that?

I went on holiday a few weeks ago with my partner and our son, our first holiday as a family and our first holiday together in 11 years of being with each other. ( we use to live in Spain, so never had a proper holiday )
Our relationship was almost over, because some twat sent him a photograph that was posted of me by the photographer, that was taken 2.5 hours ago ( this photograph was taken when I use to model ) cut a long story short, I had promised not to model again 2.5 years ago as he wasn’t comfortable with it.

He literally was making out that I was having some sort of affair with the photographer which obviously wasn’t the case, he also had thought I had started doing it again behind his back.

Now I’m a full time mother and studying full time to become a primary teacher! Where on earth would I even find time 🙄😂

We ended up having a serious conversation on holiday and sorted it out as the atmosphere was just horrendous.

My advice would be communication is key to saving any relationship. 10+ years is hard. You lose track of each other, you get caught up in daily life.

Make time for each other, do date nights, do things neither of you have done before. Find each other again! 🥰

I hope it works it self out lovely
My message box is always open xxxx