Single first time mum

Is there anyone else that is going through their pregnancy solo? I’m due December and the father is not involved and hasn’t been at all. I luckily am very close with my mum so have support there but other than that just wondering how anyone else in a similar position is coping or plans to cope once their babies arrive?

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omg wow, how did you find it?

Me 🙋🏼‍♀️ I’m due Jan 13th xx

I’m not doing it alone but it definitely feels like it. My boyfriend and I been at odds since finding out. But i guess we are trying to see if it will work or not

im due 5th dec & completely a solo mom, bd has also absolutely nothing to do with it :) feel free to message me! xx

I’m doing it completely alone too! Bd wants nothing to do with baby. But i’m super close with my mum too and she lives with me! Feel free to message me xx

Hey! Im due end of december and I'm doing it completely on my own. I moved to Oxfordshire a couple years ago and my parents are still in Scotland. My mum us going to move in with me till September next year to help out. And then from there I'll be back to work full time and my little girl will be in nursery. Feel free to give me a message if you like x

Just wanted to say I think you ladies are awesome 🤍✨🫶🏼 huge hugs and respect x

Solo mum to be here too 🙋🏻‍♀️
Due December 28th
Very supportive sister with 2 kids and mum who lives with me that I know I’ll be able to manage taking care of her but financially worrying about funds and how I’m going to cope with no extra income from him.
Emotionally, it has been difficult due to not having a partner to lean on or just share the special moments but we will get there and I’m just focusing on myself and my little one when she’s here 🤍

Feel free to drop me a message anytime

thanks hannah for the love ❤️

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