HELP NEEDED !😩: Breaking the feed to sleep association 😩😭

Hi, only for naps not night time unfortunately, we are working on settling in cot for naps with hands on settling no cio I’ve also found not last night but two nights before she woke less since weaning have you started weaning? I really feel for you I honestly think the sleep deprivation is something I didn’t expect like I knew but I thought by 6 months would be easier

Yes we’ve started weaning but he’s not a big eater unfortunately :/ I think we will also start with the day naps and move to night sleeps and sleep training in a few weeks. And the sleep deprivation is crazy! 😩

Thanks Eva and Kirsty - I’m dm’ing you as we speak!

I’ve heard people say start with night and others say start with naps but for us I know night time is a lot harder our first nap is the easiest so I started with that

I started by feeding after every wake, and then offering a top up 20/30 mins before the nap. To give a little bit of time before the sleep to break the association. I put in another routine in place, so nappy change, sleepbag and little song.

I started with naps, and for the last 3 days I rock her to fall asleep. During night she wakes up every hour, for the first 2 times she wakes up I rock her too, but then just give the boob as it is the easiest.... but it's draining, might consider rocming her for next wakes up to break the habit....

Layer in other sleep associations while you feed to sleep e.g. rocking, patting, shushing or playing a certain song. After a week start to reduce the length of feed, e.g. break the seal and replace with a dummy if baby takes one. Gradually reduce the feed length but keep doing the other sleep associations until they are enough to get baby to fall asleep without the feed.

wow!

This is just me right now !! I feel like I just need a week of sleep.

We have started to try and break the cycle but it’s not going great

I still contact nap during the day because he fights his sleeps so hard but I rarely feed him to sleep. Now I put him in his cot at bedtime and then leave him to self soothe to sleep, the first week is HARD but then 90% of the time he will put himself to sleep now. He's EBF too, so he's still up 6 times a night but ill just put him back in the cot afterwards and go back to back he's usually settled before I fully lay down.

It's worth sticking out because it's easier in the long run. I didn't let him cry it out either so it's supposed to take a little bit longer, I let him whinge but if he started to cry I would go back in to settle him each time.

yeah it really is difficult, we started trying last week but he’s got a cold this week so we’ve paused for now but not looking forward to starting again 😩

will try this! He currently hates being rocked but maybe I’ll start rocking and shushing whilst he’s feeding to ease him into the transition!

How long did it take for him to self settle in the first week? I'm scared to even try because I'm worried my baby will cry for hours

do you feed at all at night ?

Omg, it’s as if I wrote this myself 🫠 *reads every single comment*