Necesito con quién hablar

Hola, alguien con quien poder platicar ? Realmente no he estado bien últimamente, mi relación con mi esposo es cada vez menos en cuanto a comunicación porque él no es de hablar o comunicarse. Cada que busco las formas de hablar el termina peleando y yo discutiendo por cosas que hizo en el pasado, he buscado ayuda de otras formas para no perder la relación que llevamos porque lo amo, solo que ya no sé quién es...no sé si es que toda mamá paso por eso al tener su primer hijo pero es horrible.

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Trata de no buscar temas que terminen en pleitos. Se paciente. Ambos están pasando mucho estrés ahorita por la llegada del bebé.

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Yo amiga aquí estoy para platicar mándame mje cuando quieras platicar mi nombre es yessi .. 9162957246 por si gustas platicar aquí estoy

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Estoy pasando por lo mismo, te entiendo

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Hola, yo estoy en una situación bastante similar.. te entiendo. Si necesitas hablar me escribes❤️

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Hola chicas antes a mi me pasaba mucho lo mismo pero créanme q me refugié mucho en Dios y todo a cambiado mucho xq mi esposo antes era muy violento y gracias a Dios q el a cambiado mi consejo es q no saques temas de lo q ya paso y pídele a Dios que haga mejor tu relación con el verás q el té escuchará y lo ara

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Hola 👋🏻 chicas pase por una situación muy similar hace un par de tiempo , di muchas oportunidades fui muy paciente , y nunca nada cambio , todo empeoro por parte de él ! Hasta el momento que decidí irme pensando que eso haría un stop , y luego de un tiempo agradezco haber tomado esa decisión por mi y por mi hijo , nuestra paz , estabilidad vale más que demostrar y luchar tanto por alguien que no está dispuesto a cambiar , soy pro familia pero también entendí que si hubiese seguido allí nada cambiaría , el amor nos ciega y no vemos realidades ! Solo es un consejo ! Feliz día para todas , si en algo puedo ayudarlas acá estaré

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Estoy en una situación similar hoy explote y le dije que mejor nos separemos siento q ya no hay amor ni compresión me siento sola y desesperada no se que hacer, me siento muy mal emocionalmente quisiera irme lejos con mi hijo pero no puedo hay muchas cosas que pasan pero no me siento que soy feliz 😩😩😔😔

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La entiendo completamente- amiga muchas veces es mejor estar sola q mal acompañado- una relación se rema entre dos - se hace todo lo posible por mantenerla - pero llega el momento que uno debe darse el lugar-

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Ola hermosa yo te aconsejo k no. Saques nada de su pasado por qué tú le recuerdas lo k vivió ahorita estás muy sentimental por el bb pero dale su tiempo ignóralo Alós hombres eso les duele tel o digo por experiencia yo ya soy abuelita y deja me decirte k el hombre piensa que uno siempre. Vamos estar para ellos y uno donde mejor enfócate a tu bb por k ese bb te va llenar todos esos vacíos k tu tienes y el se va sentir remplazado por el bb y va empezar a darse cuenta que tu vales mucho

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Hola cuando quieras podemos conversar..

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Yo creo que es una etapa AMI me pasó cuando me alivie de mi BB no me sentí apoyada por mi pareja no quería que ni me tocará y peliaba por todo y todo le reprochaba en el fondo pensaba lo amo pero no deseo estar con él y apenas asé unos meses empezamos a retomar nuestra relación pero si es muy difícil

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

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AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

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Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

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Avoidant husband

I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?

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BLW Advice!

Did anyone else baby have a hard time with textures when it pertains to solids. My son is 9 months and he still only eats the food that is mashed or puree. Do you think this is a phase? Or does anyone have any tips?

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Toddler snacks in the morning ?

Hey.

My 14m is clearly going through a growth spurt. He’s a fussy eater but recently started having two breakfasts with the childminder and that’s even after milk in the morning.

He wakes at 6am and we leave around 7:05am. Has 6oz when he wakes but then is seemly hungry looking for snacks before we leave. The only issue is, he’s a fussy eater and won’t sit and eat fruit etc so struggling to think what I can give him that’s suitable.

Any fussy eater suitable ideas of what I can make or get him to snack on whilst we finish getting ready to get out the door?

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