Mamis que hacen para disfrutar de su día a día y no caer en la rutina ?

Yo antes le la vivía estresada por tener todo en orden y no dedicaba tiempo en mi , agotada , malhumorada y con baja autoestima ya que los primeros años son muy duros , claro que disfrutaba esa etapa pero la lactancia me tenía agotada y adelgazar demasiado me bajo mi autoestima y mi pareja no tuvo la empatía para entender y esa etapa me hirió bastante , después de muchos límites , amor propio ,lucha con poner mis necesidades como prioridad , porque mama feliz , niño feliz , porque lo que somos en ese momento es lo que damos .
Bueno hoy entendí que no tiene que estar todo en orden ni perfecto ya que no es competencia, aprendí a darme tiempo para mimarte y hacer las cosas que me generan felicidad , empecé con la plantas me ayudó mucho y cuidar de mi piel y cuerpo , hacer ejercicio en casa , ver películas , series , escuchar musica , bailar , etc ya que la verdad dejarse de lado no es nada sano y no juzgarse por aveces dejar la limpieza de la casa para otro día porque eso nunca se acaba , pero el tiempo con tu hijo pasa rápido , tu autoestima y salud son primero , menciono que bajo todo esté estrés empecé a tener reacciones caída de cabello , alergia , defensas bajas etc .
Por eso mi consejo es prioriza tu estabilidad emocional porque mama eres un reflejo para ti niño(@).

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Men gaze?

Anyone else’s husband very vocal about not liking the “plastic” look? Like everytime he sees a girl with lip injections or heavy makeup up he’s just like “ I don’t know how people like that. It’s not attractive to have all that crap going on”. But like all these of models and junk are all plastic 😅 he dosnt do any of that but I know ALOT of men do. Like I believe him but sometimes I wish I could look more like some of them because my lips are thin and after kids my boobs are saggy but he insists that he loves my body the way it is. Idk just thinking

I don’t like my toddler.

My little one was a easy baby. So loving. Even entering toddlerhood the big feelings moments were not nearly as horrible as they are now. She listens well and we hardly have to repeat ourselves until she says okay mommy or daddy. This past week her behavior has been horrible. She is giving me nasty looks when I am smiling at her. She crosses her arms at me. She screams at the top of her lungs saying go away, leave me alone, no, etc. We have her in preschool half time and her teachers have no complaints, she is always very passive and friendly. To top it off, she hits me so much. She will dig her nails into my arms and swing her arms and hit me. She will also use her head to try to hit me when I hold her arms at her side to try to stop the hitting. We never spank her back and we are firm with her on timeouts but even that she will fight so hard whereas before she would go and sit down on timeout no issues. She is turning 3 in the summer. I’m at a loss as to why she is acting so out of the ordinary. I want to chalk it up to be developmentally normal but there are zero sweet moments with her now. Even when she sits with me she will look at me and clench her jaw and push her head really hard into me or only want her dad. I just want to cry cuz I feel guilty for feeling like I don’t like her at all. I’ll always love her but it’s like the sweet kind cuddly girl she was has been possessed by this feral mean abusive toddler. Please help me, am I alone in this? Are there any other moms going through this because for some reason when I talk about this with other moms they are all shocked that she knows to hit and thinking that we showed her the hitting. Why the hell would I expose her to hitting?! I only have one mom friend who said her child also hits and it was not like she was taught that, kids just do that right? I’m at a loss.

Feel like I hate my husband

Is this me and our relationship has gone south or is tgjs a common thing !
Honestly feel like I hate my husband , we never really argued and now I feel like we always do , I’m fed up of it & don’t want to feel like this any more 🙈

fuh ass bd

so this is minor asf ( maybe) but as long as i can remember my partner goes to work comes back plays games on repeat. Yes he does do what he needs to do ( chores, bub stuff) ect. I work from home. Home 24/7 with my 12 month old all every day 7 days a week. Am I wrong to ask not even 5 mins of his time to me and not his games?? Every time i ask “ oh can you not play tonight, lets watch a movie or sum?” Greeted with annoyance and “ why , do i have to bruh?” “ what are we even going to do” “ fk man i can’t play” “bs“. Yeah everyone can wind down. But like it gets to a point where you’re up late at 3am still going.

Nursery

It seems that everyone that I talk asks if my toddler (22 months) is going to nursery or if we’re planning to when the second baby arrives. I understand that mothers need to work too but for me, I’ve only had minimum wage jobs. So instead of spending all my money on nursery and trying to put my trust into strangers, (seen so many awful stories), I stay at home to be with my child and plan to find work again when they start school. We’re not rich at all, and am living with family, the place is small and cramped but we make do. I feel like I’m missing something because so many people ask me?

Anyone else’s baby always cry when held by a particular person?

Posting this because I’m wondering if it happens to anyone else, my 4 month old son always cries like he’s in pain when my Dad holds him!! I feel so bad for my Dad when it happens and it puts me in an awkward position because I wanna grab him back but don’t wanna make out like my Dad doesn’t know what he’s doing 🫣 To be fair baby boy has only met my Dad like 3-4 times (the first time was at about 2 months) so that’s probably something to do with it, and also my Dad and I aren’t very close so I think he picks up on my feelings around him. Still strange though as he’s such a content baby and is usually fine meeting and being held by new people!