fuh ass bd

so this is minor asf ( maybe) but as long as i can remember my partner goes to work comes back plays games on repeat. Yes he does do what he needs to do ( chores, bub stuff) ect. I work from home. Home 24/7 with my 12 month old all every day 7 days a week. Am I wrong to ask not even 5 mins of his time to me and not his games?? Every time i ask “ oh can you not play tonight, lets watch a movie or sum?” Greeted with annoyance and “ why , do i have to bruh?” “ what are we even going to do” “ fk man i can’t play” “bs“. Yeah everyone can wind down. But like it gets to a point where you’re up late at 3am still going.

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Don't know how long yall have been together but can you set up like a date night in the home. As in set the ambiance like candles and rose petals so when he comes home he sees 👀 hey I want to spend time with you. Not just trying to have relations lol but just you want your cozy time.

Not to make more work for you. Its all about effort from both parties.

No you are not wrong to want that. You need that adult mental stimulation. And he do deserve a pass time just as much as yourself.

You're not wrong for that. It sounds like he doesn't really value you as a significant other or a person who also needs time that isn't work or baby focused.

I would be upset if my partner was prioritizing a video and genuinely mean to me over wanting to spend time together. Yes.
My husband games, maybe 1-2hrs a day total. But he gets up and does it before work, and then maybe 30 minutes when he gets home. Not stay up till who knows.
It’s not minor that you’re having to beg the person you love to acknowledge you. It’s not fair either that he’ll then guilt you like you’re wrong or annoying for asking for While I understand he wants to and deserves to “unwind” then there needs to be a time limit on his playing or he can only play once friends are on not “wait for them” while playing. Have you confronted him about this being a regular and continuing issue?

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