Baby doesn't like me/ prefers her father

My 6 week old just went through a crazy episode of purple crying. She had been fussy all morning. So I took her out on a stroller ride. After 5 min she started screaming on top of her lungs (it was scary!) and wouldn't stop one bit even when I picked her up. I went back home, where it didn't get better. After 10 minutes I gave her to my husband and she calmed down immediately and eventually fell asleep within a few minutes. He did absolutely the same things as I (Holding her in a certain position, gentle talking to her). Why would she act so different with the both of us? If anything, she should be more comfortable with me, as I am the one home with her all day. I was calm when she started screaming (atleast the first few minutes); so that can't really be it. Sometimes I feel like she hates me.

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It happens. It’s not you. She doesn’t hate you. Sometimes I absolutely cannot get my baby to calm down. And my husband can in minutes. Last night I tried for two hours to put her to sleep and my husband had her for 5 minutes and she knocked out. I think it has a lot to do with how they react to how we’re feeling so even if we seem calm they can sense our stress.

I think we all feel this way at some point but it is definitely NOT TRUE! Maybe she was tired by the time your husband picked her up. When this happens to me I try to focus on my baby being comfortable with his dad as well. Don't get too much in your head momma! Your baby loves you and you're doing great 🫶🏼 some days are harder

I feel the same way be with them all day feed them washing them them changing they pampers etc. when soon as daddy get home. It’s like they act different it gets me upset like I’m not doing this mom thing right. Sometimes I hate myself for it.😒😏

Thanks everyone for your kind words. Appreciate it!

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