I’m tired of living this false narrative I

On social media I look like the happiest with my partner but I’m not I’m absolutely miserable I’m taking care of a man and
Our kids , jobless and irresponsible good for nothing man. His family knows it , his momma warn and asked me why I’m in a relationship with him and she bashed the tf outta him and I just thought she was just being a bitch but no she was letting me know her son ain’t shit, even his sister , his mom said I’m his angel and I have so much patience for him for dealing with everything
I met him when I was at a low point in my life, all my standards dropped because I didn’t love myself enough, I took him in when he was high on meth and other drugs he cheated (sexting and nudes etc) and abused me (verbally and throwing shit at me )he’s wronged me in every way , I’m the first female he had since prison I mean I built this man up I bought him clothes shoes you name it I did it. I want him tf out but I don’t wanna put him on the streets at the end of the day he’s the father of my children but I’m just lost at what to do I don’t wanna keep doing this , I’m busting my ass and he’s home on video games and smoking and drinking ( the neighbors enable him)

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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