I’m 12 weeks pp on Thursday and still haven’t had sex.. I think I’m just terrified after giving birth. Can someone please tell me it won’t be as awful as I think? I do want too and I know my partner will be slow and careful but I had a post partum haemorrhage and nearly died from it after birth so I think it’s traumatised me a tad ☹️
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Everyone’s experience is different, but I’ll give you some hope! I was really really dreading it as I had a second degree tear which took a while to heal as the stitches fell out after a week! I was in agony for 5/6 weeks with discomfort for a couple more after that, I was terrified the first time but followed advice of lots of lube and apart from the initial ‘getting it in😂’ it was very enjoyable for me and have been back at it at least a couple of times a week now. Just make sure you’re ready mentally as well as physically ❤️❤️ wish you luck xx

Following! I've done it once after birth but I have flash backs of things that happened at my birth which made it hard for me to feel relaxed. Once it was in though it was okay but I am still scared like you. That's just because of the birth I had though and fears it has implanted in my head.x