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I posted earlier today about being completely burned out and how my husband isn’t helping at all and my kids didn’t nap today at all so I had a continuous 12 hour shift of taking care of them with zero breaks while I’m burned the fuck out. Lemme start by saying how can my husband say so many wrong fucking things when he gets home?!!!! And I’m furious with him rn I had to go on a walk to let out my frustration I’m still on my walk. So he comes home and says that I did get a break during my maternity leaves!!!!!! annnnnd then he said that I took the easy way out by having c sections and that vaginal birth moms were up walking around just fine after giving birth so why wasn’t I!!!!! Then he apologized for all that and said he’ll give me breaks. I told him I need a break tonight by going into the room by myself after I get the kids down for bed. He said okay that’s fine. Mind you he didn’t do a single fucking thing at all today. At all. It’s finally time to put the kids to bed and he’s like what if they just stay up? And I’ll take care of them I’m like HA BABY ITS BEDTIME IVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS ALL DAY HELL NO AND I KNOW THEY WOULD BE CRYING FOR ME AND I WOULDNT BE GETTING A BREAK! He gets pissed at me for him pissing me off right before my FINALLY me time and tells me to stop talking to him I’m like NO THEY HAVENT NAPPED TODAY SO WHY THE HELL WOULD YOU SUGGEST KEEPING THEM UP?! That’s not a break for me! And I know I would be the one ending up taking care of them!!!! I HATE HIMMMMMMM IM FURIOUS I DONT EVEN WANNA GO BACK HOME

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I wanna light his ass up like how can you say so many horrible things?!!!!! I’m BURNT OUT TODAY and he didn’t help with ANYTHING at all and suggests keeping them up when it’s finally bedtime and I’ve bathed them and everything?!!!

I don’t even wanna go home from my walk I swear to god I’m so pissed off but it’s too sketchy out here at night to be just walking around. I HATE HIMMMMM!!!!! Do I do full silent treatment or what when I go back in?! He pissed me the fuck off by suggesting to keep the kids up and then he told ME to stop talking when I was finally about to get my first break all day since 5 something this morning!!!!! After he’s done nothing all day!!!

I have to do silent treatment bc if I don’t him gonna scream his fucking head off and end up on dateline

This reminds me of all the times i wanted to leave my husband when our son was a baby. Men just dont fucking get it cuz its not their reality. They get to go to work and socialize and take a lunch and listen to music in the car and all the little pleasures they take for granted. Then they come home acting like we were taking it easy by staying home. My husband wouldnt survive if he had my job and i tell him to fuck off in my head all the time lol

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