Morning ladies

I'm in the final week of my pregnancy and this morning my other half was quite aggressive towards me over money.

I asked for money for food shopping, he gave me some and I said it wouldn't be enough for what we need. He got really angry and started smashing up the front door then launched something at my head. Luckily it missed me but it has made me feel so broken when I should be feeling safe and excited together to meet baby. I feel like I'm not going to be able to move on from this.
Am I being unreasonable or is he?

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No you are not being unreasonable at all. You have a baby on the way to think about as well. You know your partner best so you know how you feel about it. Do you have family close by? Xx

You are absolutely NOT being unreasonable, please don’t even begin to think that.
His behaviour is vile, if you do not feel safe do you have alternative family members nearby you could stay with ? xx

No partner should EVER behave like that towards their other half. I would run as far as I can as it's clearly a dangerous place for you and your baby. Perhaps you have a family who can help and definitely speak to you midwife about this situation. They should be aware of local services and also where you can seek advice. Sorry you need to go through something like that. 😞

Not unreasonable at all. Please speak up to your midwife or family and if possible get out of that situation; he shouldn’t have done that, and honestly you deserve better :) esp when your baby comes, you’ll feel a protectiveness beyond anything you’ve felt before, get out now xx

Get yourself safe ASAP. Don't let Jim harm you or unborn baby! Go to family or friends . You are definitely not being unreasonable and if you think that it's probably becuase he has gaslit you into taking the blame. This is not OK and staying around him will do more harm than good.

Agree with all the above and sending love. You and your baby are priority 💛 get out and be safe

Thank you all. I'm still upset and in shock to be honest.

We've been together over 7 years and he hasn't been violent to me, we have a 2 year old already and he is an amazing dad. She loves him dearly. I think the money situation is really getting to him. But totally agree I don't deserve that behaviour and neither do the children. If I had somewhere to go I would as I feel I'm walking on egg shells but unfortunately I have no savings and no family that can help. He's lost his temper before and pushed me once years ago but never since and shouts and says horrible things in rage normally but for him to act like that and whilst I'm carrying his baby. I just don't know what he is thinking!

Nope not good at all..my fella told me to fuck off 3 days ago while i was driving.
I opened the car door & made him get out and walk in the rain & not spoken or seen him since.
I wont put up with that behaviour at all.
Easy for me to say as i have my own home,money & not another child together but i do understand how u feel.
Whats meant to be a exciting special time is ruined & tarnished.
Your meant to feel loved supported and safe not stressed.

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

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The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?

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My 14m is clearly going through a growth spurt. He’s a fussy eater but recently started having two breakfasts with the childminder and that’s even after milk in the morning.

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