Childcare consecutive or spaced out days?

My daughter will be 10months old when she will start childcare. I’m enrolling her for 3 days a week.

Parents with kids already in childcare, would you recommend consecutive days at this age like T/W/Th for routine, or spaced out days like M/W/F so LO can have a break from big days at childcare; or even two consecutive and one separate like Tues/Wed/Fri?

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My 9 month old Bub goes to childcare 2 consecutive days. A good friend use to be a childcare educator and recommended consecutive days to help baby adjust better. She saw that babies who went on spaced out days struggled more compared to those who went consecutive days. My LO has adjusted quite well so far (it’s been a month)

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My boy is 10 months and just started last week. He’s currently doing split days, more so because that’s the only availability they had.
But it works for us as I think the two big days side by side might be a bit much! It also totally messes with his sleep so having that day in the middle is a saving grace at the moment!

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I work in childcare and definitely consecutive days. Helps them settle easier as it allows them to build relationships easier with educators when its in a row rather than settling in one day to then be home and then have to try resettle the next day.

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Consecutive definitely if possible, I'm an educator and find it helps the child settle faster with consecutive days. They get to know the routine faster and form relationships with the educators.

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these all make so much sense! We are still only two weeks in and whilst I preferred consecutive days, we just took what we could! Definitely would help my boy settle a bit better.

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I preferred space out days in the beginning as they fall sick frequently in the beginning until they built immunity and generally childcare doesnot allow to attend for 24 to 48hours if they fall sick on the day they attend.

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We did Wednesday, Thursday and Friday to start of with before moving to Tuesdays and Mondays. I didn’t want to breakup the days as I wanted to keep a schedule.

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Been recommended spaced out by a friend due to sickness, let’s them more time to recover in between. Also to avoid Mondays as public holidays often fall on a Monday.

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I found spacing out only confused my boys. The first 3 months they were both sick all the time but once I got my toddler on vitamins he is almost never sick.

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mine’s gonna be 1 year old and start with 2 days a week. I’m scared he’s not gonna adjust to sleeping there straight away as we cosleep. Do you still think consecutive might still be better ? And which vitamins did you take that helped? Thanks !

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hi sasha,

The first few weeks you will find that he may not eat or sleep as well at kindy as they are adjusting but go and do stay and plays with them to allow him to build relationships with his educators whilst you are there to help him understand that you trust them which allows them to settle quicker.

The first bit is going to be hard but they do settle and have amazing times.

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I’m not sure as I sleep trained my kids from 6 weeks, they fall asleep by themselves when they get tired. My son can sleep anywhere. The 3 days a week really worked for me. It also helped with the crying.

With regards to vitamins, I buy the natures way kids smart vitamins, my son things they are lollies, I have also tried the gusty gummies and Swiss kid’s vitamins, all work well, I really like gusty but it’s a little pricey. My sons are good eaters so this is a top up and I also give them extra vitamin D, we live in Melbourne, the sun is out a few days a year.

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I know consecutive days are best for bubs where possible! My son is doing consecutive days at the moment but next year he's doing spaced out days because of my work needs, and I can't avoid that.

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I know consecutive days are best for bubs where possible! My son is doing consecutive days at the moment but next year he's doing spaced out days because of my work needs, and I can't avoid that.

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