3 year old keeps getting send home from daycare for behavior

My twins and I recently changed daycares due to a recent move so they have been attending for almost 2 months now. Unfortunately, my son keeps getting write ups for biting, hitting teacher/friends, running out of the classroom, etc. More recently they have shared that it has escalated to throwing chairs and head-locks, which is mind blowing only because I’ve never seen this exhibited at home. My son is handful and with the new transition and dad’s absence, he is having a hard time managing his big feelings. He’s super apologetic and sweet once that feeling subsides but I need some help with next steps as I don’t want to get kicked out of this daycare. We work on emotional regulation at home which is why he’s able to reiterate that he’s not to hit but nothing is sticking. Daycare only “redirects” the behavior and doesn’t implement time-out. Please help. I’m doing this on my own so I’m feeling very frustrated having to pick him up early from school 3 out of the 5 days of school.

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.

Add a comment

This happened to my sister. She has a son and literally does the same thing with the same consequences as yours. Her son is also handful and does not listen. It’s hard for me when I watch him sometimes and I couldn’t know how my sis can handle his situation. But since his speech development is delay she took him to a special school and it’s almost a one to one with him and no complaints from the school either. I’m thinking he needed a one to one attention with him. Since mom and dad always works. But so far he’s been progressing with his speech and his bad behavior has decreased as before. Hope this helps

I going through the same thing if you want to talk about it you can inbox

yep that’s what I do here at home (timeouts and take away items, etc) I’m looking in some OT and/or play therapy options with my Peds. Thanks for the helpful suggestion!

If you allow a tablet in the home I'd stop that ASAP. It tends to lead to unfavorable behavior especially the changes in his life. It's not your fault, this is all fixable before 4-5 years old. But something definitely has to change. I work in early Ed & we only send kids home if they are irrate like this- but typically we can curb it with help from parents. We believe in a "calm body" "sit with teacher" or "sit down alone" for discipline in daycare.

I pulled my daughter from the prior daycare she was in for not implementing any discipline that was approved by parents. She was 2 at the time and biting. Biting happens at that age, I understand that, but you cannot achieve curbing it if she has to wait until I'm done working to then handle it. By then she can't comprehend why she went an entire day until pick up to be in trouble with us at home. She was in that daycare for 6 months. That's when I took a step down from teaching grade school & got into a daycare myself to find the right one & be there lol

What kills me is they called me 2 times to pick her up for biting, yet not doing anything about it besides "UH OH! OH NO! no thank you! We do not bite friends" okay, yeah, a 2 year old needs a time out the length of their age. My degree says so. Lmao it was all for the better that I pulled her from that daycare.

in our community

If yall still giving your kids processed food, pls seek help

I understand not everybody can afford healthy ingredients all the time, but I’m seeing so many moms on social media giving they kids artificial cereals, coffee, frozen pancakes, velveetta Mac and cheese, hot Cheetos, kraft, the list goes on. I’m sorry but are yall not capable of cooking from scratch or ?? On top of that, if you still using canola and vegetable oil in 2026 you gotta stop. Am I the only one that notices this ???

Sahm .. the dad role .

Hi!! I’m 2 months pp. and I really would like your opinion on this situation if you have a moment.
So I have always had a job before the baby, and my bd .. not really. But 2 weeks before he was born he scored a really good job and I was able to be a sahm. Which is what I wanted , and I’m unsure if it’s still what I want or if the situation just isn’t right.
At first he was a great help in the hospital as I had an emergency c section. I was in the hospital for about a week and for most of that time I was in bed .
But after that.. I’m lucky if he will watch the baby while I shower .and I mean that seriously.
I am the only one who changes diapers, only one who bathes , feeds or watched him in general. And of course he may be tired after work but it’s like he completely avoids any responsibility. Like he will take a hour coming home and stop by his friends house otw . He will sit down stairs for hours knowing I won’t go down there bc I’m uncomfy . So I have the baby then.
We have been out maybe 2-3 times sense I had him & he refused to push the stroller c change or anything. In fact we got to the mall and said he needed to split up and I had the baby.
I feel he only wants the baby when it’s for … attention? Like to post the baby on social media or if his family is here he will take him .

I just feel like on days he doesn’t have work the next morning he should be helping , and if he is up early before work while I’m still sleeping he should get the baby instead of scrolling on reels for 3 hours .

Honestly he has really ruined my new born phase with my son. Within the first week of us being home I had to full on switch to survival mode I would call it. He would complain if dinner wasn’t done or if the room was a mess , he would complain if the diaper caddy had no diapers which really makes no sense bc he didn’t even changed the diapers . It was just everything.
I’m just wondering if there is anything I could say to get some type of help out of him.
I tried reaching out to his mother but honestly his hole family is oblivious to his behaviour.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Nursery ideas

Guys I need help! This is going to be my daughter’s nursery and I want to make it cute. Help me find an aesthetic look or a good layout to place some furniture/cribs etc!!

Blw

Hi I am running out off ideas on what to make for Lil 14 month old for breakfast lunch and dinner if anyone have any resipes would be great to try my boy with them

Should I respect his wishes??

I’ve been a SAHM for 4 years now and my husband does a great job providing for our family and we never need for anything. With that i still had to sacrifice some wants like shopping when I want getting my hair and nails done regularly so when I can I try to supplement for my wants and savings by selling my craft items at vendor markets and recently I’ve started donating plasma. Which has been consistent income for me. $125 twice a week. Well my husband has expressed that he doesn’t like me donating plasma. He feels like it’s not worth it to put my body through those conditions for $125. He even went out to sell one of his guns today and gave me all the money and told me “I shouldn’t have to donate plasma no more”. That was so sweet but I disagree. I planned on continuing to donate plasma to save for my kids birthdays thats coming up, a trip we have planned and our anniversary. I don’t know what to do. I finally found something that pays something consistently and my husband is against it. What should I do?