Nursery ideas

Guys I need help! This is going to be my daughter’s nursery and I want to make it cute. Help me find an aesthetic look or a good layout to place some furniture/cribs etc!!

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Starting food

How do you know when your babies are ready for food ? I know a lot of people who have started theirs at around 4 months but I can’t tell if mines ready or not and don’t want to try too soon

A little backstory. 2 years ago I found out that my husband was watching half naked ladies live on TikTok. Not only that, he went as far as paying them to FaceTime with him for “private performances”. When I found out I was heartbroken 💔 I cried so much and when I confronted him he accused me of searching his phone. He said it wasn’t cheating because he never met those women and there was no penetration involved. He later apologised but deep down he still thought he didn’t do anything wrong. He then changed his password and said we shouldn’t look into each other’s phones Forgiving him was so hard but I never forgot. Not even once.
Fast forward to 2 night ago, he fell asleep while watching a totally different, non sexual live. I took his phone to turn it off and decided to check if he was still doing that thing.
I found out he still follows those women on TikTok. This time I was just sad and unsurprised I guess. When I asked him about it he said he doesn’t do that anymore and he swore he stopped.

My problem is, even if he doesn’t watch those lives anymore why is he still following those women? When I asked him why he hasn’t unfollowed them yet he said they are too many to unfollow and that he’s not had the time.
I find this excuse very stupid and honestly I’m heartbroken but I have accepted that I will not be insulted in this marriage. I have accepted that even if we get a divorce I’m fine with it, we’ll just raise our 2 year old as co-parents.

Am I overreacting? Should I be more understanding about this? I’d really appreciate some advice now.

Is this strange or am I being sensitive

My mother in law had nothing to do with me the whole pregnancy, didn’t ask to see me once (I invited her to my baby shower, that was the only time I saw her in 10 months).
To be honest it suits me because me and my partner don’t really like her anyways. I dread seeing her🤣so I’m not complaining.

However, yesterday she messaged me asking if we’d like to all go on a day out at the weekend together, obviously I had to say “yes that would be lovely”. And I told her to let me know what she’s thinking of doing….then she replies back telling ME to come up with something and organise it!
I already have enough to do? I’m taking care of their grandchild full time alone while my fiance is at work, I don’t get a minute to myself to pee. If I wanted to plan a day out, I would have. If you want to make effort to see your child, grandchild & daughter in law, do it. I think it seems so lazy.

In my opinion I’m thinking why invite me out, if you’re then going to tell me to plan it ??
I thought this was the ONE time they were going to make a bit of effort. But nope I was wrong.

I tried to talk to my partner about it but he thought nothing of it.
My own mum thinks it’s odd that they’ve never even invited us round for dinner.
My mum always invites and hosts her 4 kids & all their in-laws.

I haven’t replied to her message yet because honestly I don’t know what to say. She’s the sort of person that would complain about everything even if you did plan something. If you really don’t know what to do then atleast tell your son to come up with something. Dont drop it all on me. You either want to see us or you don’t. Baffled

Anyone overwhelmed?

I have a 16 week old daughter. Don’t get me wrong. I love being a mum and she’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me but I find myself getting so so bored and find being with her all day so monotonous. I have tried to do things to break up the days I go on lots of walks I try and go and visit my parents or I have visitors round. I’ve joined a baby sensory class. I’m planning on going to a library session but it just still feels really boring and repetitive. I had a very active and busy job before maternity. I really struggle to get anything done for myself even down to basics sometimes like self-care or tidying the house. I find I really struggle as it gets to the evening because I’ve been with her all day and I’m so tired and I know that I’m only gonna get an hour or two of relief from my husband and then I’m gonna have to do it all again overnight does anyone else feel like this? Or have any advice on how I can get past the feeling of boredom and monotony but also the feeling of just being quite overwhelmed by all at times?

Feel so alone

Hey, i think I just needed to have a vent, ive not always been the best parent to my other half but we both decided to have a baby and now shes here shes the most amazing baby ever shes so happy and so content and I love her to pieces, but my partner has literally done nothing he says hes struggling to bond to her but hes not doing anything about it, since we have been home from the hospital I have spent every last waking moment plus sleepless nights with our daughter feeding changing and everything in between, and i have spent the last 3 weeks sleeping in the sofa due to him being full of anxiety of every noise she makes, I know this is his first child and I know some fathers take time to bond with their child but it just feels like hes not willing to do anything about it, I have practically 0 family other than my 77 year old grandma and my friends are living their own lives and are doing their own thing, and just when I think we are making progress by talking and stuff it just feels like its 1 step forward and 5 steps back, I just feel like im doing this all alone and ive tried to voice all this to him but he doesnt seem to understand, im sorry for pouring all this on here but I just feel so alone

Teething calpol

If youre giving calpol for teething how often are you giving them? Our 16wo is showing signs and weve just given for the first time and it seems to have instantly made a difference. Hes been sucking on muslins and chewing his fingers for a couple weeks but this totally changed his mood. Dont want him in pain but also dont want to be giving every 4hrs for weeks too either?