husband doesn’t want another baby

It wouldn’t be grounds for divorce for me, but I am not you and we may feel different.

Are you working? Is your husband the only one bringing money in? This is important, as his feelings are valid too. Maybe he feels he doesn’t want another financial strain. Maybe he is happy and feels his life is complete with just 1 baby.

What if he wanted 10 babies? And he would have considered divorce if you said no to his request of keep having babies for the next 10 years? Would that have been fair to you?

I would be more understanding of him and go with the flow… enjoy the baby you have now and your husband, enjoy the present, because you never know what the future will bring. Especially that your husband does not pull out every single time. 😊

but are you supposed to stay and accept not getting something in life that you desperately wanted? marriage is about compromise but everybody has something they are just not willing to compromise on and this is mine. I have lost 2 children and would give my right pinky toe to be able to have more. At the end of the day, he cannot grant me that gift only God can, so shouldn’t he also be more understanding and go with the flow? Like I said if he were to say without a doubt no to more kids, I cannot force him but I do think I would want to move on because I just cannot accept that. I am absolutely enjoying everything I have now, my husband and son but I also think about in 5 years, 10 years, 15 years I will regret not having more kids. I will regret not giving my son a sibling

and I understand the financial part but our finances will change whether we have more kids or not. we are going to go through ups and downs financially no matter what so is that really enough reason to not have another child? we are both still able bodied so we will always be able to make money. we might not be able to live the high life but our basic needs will always be taken care of

Is everything in your marriage great besides this? Are you getting to the age where if you wait any longer you may not be able to have a biological child? If you were to leave your husband and still never got that dream family you wanted, would you regret leaving your current husband? I’m asking this because of a similar situation with someone I know. She had a child and husband didn’t want any more, so she eventually left him. She remarried twice after and still didn’t get the other child she wanted all along. She’s now divorced from her 4th husband with just that one child.

these were great questions to ask.. for me I think it would be more so the fact that my husband felt so strongly about not wanting another child that he wasn’t willing to compromise and thus let our marriage dissolve. The thing is even tho he has his reservations right now, he will not regret having another child whereas I WILL regret NOT having another especially if the reason was because of him. I would resent him and it would just result in an unhappy marriage anyway. So to answer your last question, I think if it got to the point of us divorcing and I still don’t have another child I don’t think I would regret leaving this marriage. But I am curious to know if your friend regretted leaving hers?

It seems to me that you want to divorce.

if he is firm on not having another baby then yes, that’s just how I feel I can’t help it. I know for a fact I will resent him if I feel he is the reason I don’t have another child

She wouldn’t admit to it, but sometimes I think she does, seeing how her life turned out. She had a good thing with that husband she left, (besides him not wanting another child) every other marriage she had after didn’t work out for one reason or another.

If this is the only reason that you may divorce him then in my opinion it's not a very good reason..... If he is faithful and supports you and the kids and loves you then I don't see the problem maybe he's just not ready for another kid. Of course it's your situation and you know better though

Here's the thing. We all have wants, needs, expectations, things we can and cannot settle on. If not trying to have more kids is a deal breaker for you, then I think you have your answer.
But I think you should think long and hard about the decision to break up your family IF this is the only issue you are facing with your husband. Because, kids are not guaranteed if you find another partner, and maybe that relationship won't work either.
Maybe it would be a good idea to consult a therapist, together. Maybe your husband has trauma from the miscarriages? Maybe having 1 is alot of work for him. Maybe he doesn't truly know if he wants to try and bring another child into this world. There are so many things he could be feeling and not telling you.... maybe you could see if you two can try to have a kid? Depending on age, maybe you can drop it for a year or two, work on getting him to communicate his feelings and go from there? Maybe truly communicate how you feel , and see what he says?
I'm curious did you

Two ever discuss how many kids you both wanted?
Miscarriages, fertility treatments, financial stress, takes a toll on a real man. Even if they don't express it, they do have alot of emotions

If he is no sure about other baby do not do it don't put yourself on that situation