I'm so angry ☹️

I would be furious. This is your child. Make the boundaries more known to your mom maybe?

I just said there's a lack of trust. To knowingly do it when I was away making my bed after me saying I wouldn't do it multiple times previously. I'm sick of older folk thinking it's their way or the high way. It's not a generational thing. That's an excuse.. it's an entitled thing . I'm just raging 😐

I’m be fuming! Total lack of respect to your feelings. He’s your boy, and she needs to respect your wishes. I wouldn’t be leaving him alone with her again for a while so show her that she broke your trust, and needs to rebuild it 🥰

well done for making your feelings known. I know its crazy isn't it. I live with my parents and at the start they were all like no do it this way and I said to them times have changed advice has changed, now they go with my way mostly , Although my mom is still trying to get my baby to take a pacifier even when she clearly doesn't like it 🙈

Omg no I would be LIVID my mam would’ve got the biggest mouthful and then shown the door. Its mega disrespectful after you’ve told her multiple times not to

Appreciate this guy's. They make me feel like I'm being dramatic and it's no biggie. But it actually felt a bit like a punch in the chest. To be so flippant when it's about his first haircut should be done properly when he has ... Actually hair?!!! And when I take him. Not chopping the ends to thicken it up?! I'm baffled. Upset. Pissed off.

I'll absolutely not be accepting "can I get a cuddle" if I'm not in the room again

it’s sadly really common in mother/daughter relationships when their daughter has a baby. You don’t see it as much when it’s mother/son. It’s a weird “you’re my daughter so he’s technically mine too” thing. Entitlement to act as a parent rather than grandparent. Not with everyone of course but it does happen. It seems like your mum could fit the bill but hopefully your reaction to her cutting your sons hair will get the message through to her. You can be present and involved, but decision making is my authority alone.

Swear if you asked her she’d have stories to tell about when you were a baby with people trying to butt in/get involved and being told where to go. They seem to forget what it’s like.

I would lose my mind if someone cut my little girls hair without my permission, never mind if my mum did it! you are not being dramatic and it is a biggie as she has done this knowing you don't agree. I hope you're ok 🩷

Hey holly, it’s ok, don’t worry, I understand how it can feel, but thankfully nothing too bad has happened. Babies hair will grow back. Looking at the good side, you know now not to leave baby with your mum now, as she goes beyond not even asking you. People are mad these days, I had so much argument with my mum in the beginning, she was making me go mad, they don’t have bad intentions actually. Just stay carm.

Very true. In the grand scheme of things his hair will grow back and he's oblivious obviously. Just gets my kind going to what else is out of my hands when they have a cuddle with him . Next they'll take him to get his ear pierced or something daft 🤦

I would be livid!! Total lack of disrespect 😔

Your mum is a narcissist.
She knew she would get a reaction out of you by doing this. It’s unacceptable behaviour from her.
It’s not even really about the hair, it’s about you telling her “no” and she didn’t like it. I’m sorry you have to deal with this!

Oh and spinning it round to make you feel like you’re the ‘crazy’ one who is ‘overreacting’ is just classic. My mum is the same way.

I would be so angry and upset! It’s your decision only. No one else’s. Sorry this has happened to you!

I'd be FUMING! ❤️

This is wrong is so many ways I would be more than fuming!

there is a definite arrogance and know-it-all mentality . Lack of respect. I'll be less trusting from now on regardless of whether she's taken heed or not

You are absolutely not being a drama queen! If someone did that to my baby then they absolutely would never be left alone with her again!

Thanks everyone. I feel less over the top in getting myself worked up earlier. Still seething when I think about it but glad to know it's not just "hormones" as everyone likes to blame it on these days. You have a baby and all of a sudden you can't control your emotions and hormones as if we haven't had hormones through us since feckin puberty 🙄😂

I would be so angry this is not ok

You're absolutely right!

I would be furious, it's your baby and even though I am sure she did it with the best interest in heart, she should've checked with you.

I’d make it known I didn’t want them round the baby alone again tbh I’d be livid and wouldn’t be seeing her for a while

I’d be livid, babies first haircuts is a big thing especially with your first baby, so to completely disregard your feelings is unfair! You are not being dramatic in the slightest!

I would absolutely loose my shit 😂😂