Worried about 2nd pregnancy

We have a 10 month old girl and I found out I’m pregnant again. I’m starting to get worried because we have a small house. All three of the bedrooms are small, one is my husbands office since he works from home which he really needs, one is our daughters and one is ours and it’s not the size of a master so we can barely fit a crib in our room. I’m just stressed out because I’m sure everyone is aware of how expensive everything is right now, it’ll be really hard for us to get a bigger home right now without breaking the bank. We’re already tight on cash as it is. My husband makes a good living but life has a lot of expenses obviously so it doesn’t even go that far. I’m mostly a stay at home mom, I just don’t know how we’re going to do this. Kids are so expensive and I’m not sure how so many people do this.

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Get a mini crib or bassinet. Don't go with a full size crib, it'll last the baby awhile. My son co slept with me for a little bit and didn't like his bassinet and he's 10 months now still fits in the mini crib and he's in my room which is pretty small too. Mini cribs are decently priced. I didn't pay a lot for mine. If you'd like I can get the link as well I got it off of Amazon.

And get WIC if you can. If you don't already have it, once the baby starts on baby food you can get a lot from WIC around 6 months I believe. They also give you a lot of grocery stuff to get free with WIC for the mom the first six months once baby can start regular veggies and less baby food they give you free veggies to get

Also recommend the mini crib. We were in a one bedroom and it fit perfectly.

would that be an issue if my husband has a certain income?

A bedside bassinet for the first 6 months and a mini crib for however long you need it. Find as much as you can second hand or on buy nothing groups. Once upon a child has great deals on a lot of baby stuff and I recently saw like 3 mini cribs at our local one.

I'd prioritize bedrooms being for sleep and move any toys and things you can into places like the living room (adapt a toy rotation system to help minimize space taken up) and make the bedrooms just for sleeping so that it doesn't matter if it's a little cramped when they share.

Bigger isn't always better. Kids have shared rooms for ages and it doesn't negatively impact their development. There are tons of ways to minimize and save space.

My 9m old's stuff fits in one dresser. All her clothes, diapers, medical stuff, extra sheets, blankets. She has a mini crib and she probably has about 1 small box worth of toys. We skipped all the big baby furniture and all is well. We plan on trying for a second soon and will only be adding an extra mini crib.

I have a 10 month old and also pregnant due May 2024. We have a 2 bedroom townhouse but luckily the two bedrooms are big enough for room sharing. I do want to move though! But like you said in this economy it’s rough. I also agree with a bedside bassinet!

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NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭