Baby waking up early, but fighting 3rd nap

My baby has been waking up by 6am everyday which I am assuming is from us having to put him down for bed by 6:30pm because he has been fighting his 3rd nap. His first wake window is never any longer than 2.5 hours & then his second wake window is usually only 2.75 hours. When we try for that 3rd nap he just fights it and ends up having like a 4-5 hour wake window before bed and is so overly tired. We have been trying to just cut down to two naps because he clearly is showing all the signs, just not sure how to navigate. Any thoughts??

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Not many thoughts unfortunately, just here to say I'm in the same boat. It's such an awkward in between phase!

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I've had the same issue. She's dropped the 3rd nap, but we sometimes get these brutal days where she has a long wake stretch to bed.

For that second wake window, try leaving the house. That gets my baby so amped up and stimulated that she stays awake much longer.

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you’re getting 2-3 naps? we’ve been getting one for months now 😭

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some days that's all we get. Ours hates napping BUT if he doesn't nap he is sooooo cranky. I mean .. he won't go to sleep he'll just cry horribly and be sooo fussy

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that’s okay, it helps to know I’m not the only one struggling! It really is such an awkward in between phase, we go back and forth of two - three naps a day it’s unpredictable

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I will definitely have to try that and see if it helps! It’s hard when he is at my MIL as well to keep him on a schedule so it’s just all over the place right now. Hopefully the wake windows increase soon!

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I feel like every baby is so different! My baby’s cousin who is 6 days older than him is not napping at all, like completely zero naps at 8 months😳

Hang in there!💓

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thanks! hoping you get it figured out but obviously i’m no help 😭

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Same here. It's frustrating and hard to predict. Im like ..come on kid help a mom out! But...he has 3 teeth growing in so...things are even worse 😭 but I'm also so glad to know it's not just me!

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I completely relate, it’s so frustrating and then I feel guilty for feeling frustrated😩 my boy is also growing in two top teeth so it all probably goes together!

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i’d extend the first and second wake windows to 2.75 and 3

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I think personally my issue is sometimes he still takes 30 minute naps and gets super cranky after which then puts our next wake window a bit short because he just can't hang

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just gotta work through the crankiness 😩 it was a rough week when i was dropping his third nap but now he gives me an hour for each of his two naps

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yes that’s exactly our issue too!

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You just have to push out the first two naps…3 hour wake windows. It’s always rough the first week but it sounds like that is what he needs

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Push the wake windows by going outside if you can, after a few days of pushing towards 3 hours wake windows and the last one can be 4-5 before bed, it’ll all get back into place.

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