Getting really tired in my marriage (really long post so sorry)

I’m so sorry about everything you’re going through. Tbh all I can say is try to complain a lot less no matter how hard it is, just find the joy in doing things for yourself and ignoring him. Don’t use sex as a tool it will only drive you guys further apart.
When he actually helps out exaggerate your compliments to him and show appreciation even though you feel it’s his responsibility it would probably encourage him to do more. Sadly Men are more driven that way.
His lack of ability to help is probably from lack of discipline or how he was brought up.

It’s annoying, but try to take care of yourself and mental health first x

@Naz I think the same.
If you will tell every day to men, can you take bin out l, or why you did not take it. They will feel that you are nagging. My partner is the same.
So you need to trick them a bit. And do when they are happy or once per week ask about one thing. That they will not feel as nagging. The worst is just put mote sentences and requirements when it is tense situation already. They will not listen and their egos are blocked and done and they are like walls.
As well, maybe some calendar or some board on wall, what is has to be done during the month. But it will his and your tasks that he will see it that both of you are doing.
And the same as above. Compliment them when they will do smth. It is game changer and they feel noticed and needed.
They are like kids. Than it will get to the point that it will be better again.
As well being 37 weeks pregnant is difficult and hard time to manage eveything. So take easy and rest.

I have some issue with the comments here. “Men” shouldn’t need to be coddled. We aren’t their mothers or their teachers. They don’t need an adda boy or for us to say they’re doing a good job. They need to be men, not children. We don’t need to stroke their egos. They can just step it up and be a man, a husband, and a good father. Or even just a decent human being. Smh. Idk mama…I would have just stayed separated honestly. Seems like you’re doing it yourself anyway. Seems like he’s just going to be a third child to take care of.

honestly i dont feel like im complaining. I am just asking him fo help get things done and letting him know how i feel about having to do everything. That should be an sign that he needs to step up, it’s not a personal attack. and its the facts that he just turns it on me instead of acknowledging that he’s making me feel like shit. Im 37 weeks pregnant i cant do as much when it comes to sex and it hurts, and either way because of the mental load i dont want to a lot of the time. Im not just not having sex with him because of everything im mentally dealing with. I shouldn’t have to overly praise you for doing your job,l. We dont get that at work, our kids dont give it to us, thats the real world. I always thank him when he does something and let him know that it’s appreciated, but when i do all the things i do it’s invisible and i dont need praise for it. Step up and be a man not a boy, that is my point. Im not for the tricking and all that that’s for kids in my opinion.

thank you for understanding! I just want to be heard and seen

You’re absolutely not alone with this. I know doing everything yourself is so difficult and the added behavior of him just makes things worse and it’s extremely exhausting! It’s so easy to try to keep hoping things will change or try your best on your end but it’s not possible to do everything on your own, so try your best to think about what’s best for you and the kids. At the end of the day you can’t keep living like this it will wear you down and you deserve to be happy! Please feel free to message me if you want💗

He sounds like another body to take care of. What value does he add to your life?? Can u really picture your life like this forever?