Feeling like a failure

My baby is breastfed, from past few weeks he is crying extremely during feeding. I don't know whom to consult to rectify this. What could be the reason? Is it something that I am doing wrong? I am currently facing PPD due to this😞

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How old is your LO? If around 3 months have you heard of the three month breastfeeding crisis? I would suggest looking into it, it doesn't solve your problem unfortunately but it may help to know it's not just you and it's a phase all babies go through ❤️ xx

: will it pass? If so, how long? I am already tired and feeling so annoyed. I don't know what that is. He completed his 3 months few days ago.

We’ve been experiencing this too. I have found it really tough going - sending you strength. I went to a breastfeeding support group and they confirmed it is very common around this age. Do you have any groups local to you? Things that have helped - not always but sharing in case it’s at all useful- dream feeds, standing up feeding, side lying feeding and just generally having the boob out ready for quick access.

I’ve found standing up deeding helps when my baby is like this

It will pass, every baby is different so I can't say how long it will take but just remind yourself that this is just a season and you will get through it xx

I've also found standing up helps, he gets so distracted now that finding somewhere quiet has become more important too. Sometimes playing white noise helps to calm him down. I also have a breastfeeding/teething necklace from mama bear and cubs which gives him something to do with his hands and seems to help him focus on feeding. Ultimately it's just patience! Well done on making it this far already, you're doing great 🥰

Can I just say how much this has helped me because she nearly 4m old is COMPLETELY inconsolable on the boob at the moment and I've been so close to giving up. She cries, grabs and pulls my skin (so painful) kicks and thrashes about 🤦‍♀️ its nice to see its common and I've just been googling the crisis thing 🙏

I feel you, I think I might have given up if she would take a bottle but then you have a good feed and it’s magic 🧡

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Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!