Time with in laws

This isn't really baby related, but wanted people's thoughts! How much time do you all spend with in laws/partners parents or family?

Ever since LO has arrived, the amount of time we spend with them has increased, understandably as they want to spend time with LO. This can look like going after hubby finishes work for dinner every other day or at least 3 times a week. They'll also come over (they do ask!) once or twice a week. Each time, we'll only go round or they'll only be round for a few hours(they only live 10 mins drive away).

I'm finding it a bit overwhelming as someone that likes a bit of space, an introvert, and I want to spend time with just my little family as well.. but don't feel there's time for that. Am I being unreasonable? I'm happy with a few times a week, but its a bit more than that and there's an expectation we spend any free time there or they come over.

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A fellow introvert here. I think once to twice a week (given how close they are) is reasonable, anything more is too much! Mine live an hour and a half away and we would normally see them every 2-3 weeks.
I would suggest speaking to your husband and explaining how you feel and slowly trying to minimise it.

I see mine once a week maybe every fortnight. 5 times a week seems excessive tbh, I couldn't handle that. You need your own space as well as a couple with a new baby

I would be saying can I have my space at this point as I struggle with family visits increasing to weekly as it is

I’m not an introvert but this is far too much! We see my family 1-2, maybe 3 times a week and they live 10 minutes away. That’s the perfect amount for us. Also a few hours is far too long 😅 Popping by for a cuppa is just the right amount of time for that regularly in my opinion

I see my in laws around two or three times a year 🤣 My own family live far away so we do see my dad usually once every month for a few hours, and other family once every two or three months. It works well for me - I could do with some help but it's never really help when people visit is it, it ends up being more people to look after 🤣 x

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

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