Feeling so overwhelmed.

I have 2 children 20 months apart, one is 2 one is 6 months. So far I've felt things have gone well and I've not really struggled with getting them into a routine etc. But just recently I'd say the past week or so, its been absolutely awful. The eldest has hit the 2 year sleep regression, attitude has changed completely, just some days are awful.
The baby is teething and has hit the 6 month sleep regression!

I've been poorly for the last few days which obviously hasn't helped.

But I'm just feeling so so down and overwhelmed. I literally just want to walk out of the door and leave them at times. I feel absolutely awful for even thinking that, I know its not their fault. I'm so touched out, tired, fed up.

Please tell me I'm not the only one because i feel like im failing 🥺😒

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I completely feel you! Also have a 2 year old and 6 month old! It's hard being needed so intensely 24/7 especially on little sleep, but you are definitely not failing! X

@Chantelle your comment has just made me burst into tears! Thank you. I just feel so overwhelmed at the minute x

I honestly feel the same, my toddler is stuck to me like glue, and sometimes I just want to say 'leave me alone' and the baby cries for anyone but me so I spend all day holding him, it's definitely not easy! Do you get a break at all? X

I've got a 22 month age gap between my girls so totally understand! It's so hard, but you really are doing the best you can. Don't beat yourself up if one day just needs to be a bit of a tele day.
I really struggle with feeling touched out - do you have anyone who could come sit with them for a couple of hours while you have a bath/nap? X

@Chantelle I don't get a break, ever! They don't even nap at the same time x

You're absolutely not alone in feeling like it. Mine are just under 5 years apart (one is 5 years and the other is 5 months) and have had days where I just want to explode! I've found talking to someone who's in a similar position, about my frustrations (the never ending housework, the constant need for physical contact by the children and effects from lack of sleep to name a few!) has helped me feel less resentful and angry. x

You are not failing! It’s damn hard work!! My boys are 16 months apart and also feeling overwhelmed with both going through a regression. Just know it’s completely normal to feel this way and it will get better. Hang in there mama!!

What helps me is timing LO’s second nap with my toddlers only nap so that I can also nap with them, that half an hour works wonders!!!

I am in the same situation as you. I have a 5 year old (6 in a couple of weeks) 2 year old and a 6 month old…20 months apart as well) and I’m currently sat on my bed on the verge of tears because my 2 year old has just woken up and whatever I do is wrong. My husband isn’t here this evening so it’s all on me.
We leave the house at 7.30am on week days so dreading the morning 🥲

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