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Venting about my Unhappy Fiancé

My fiancé whom I’ve been with for 5 years has been complaining about the lack of intimacy for the past 3 weeks. I am currently 11 weeks 5 days pregnant and suffering from HG, migraines, body aches from constantly being sick and overall being mentally exhausted. We have also a 1yr old and a 3yr old, I work full time from home while also being the full time parent for them as well I never get a break. Family isn’t close by to watch them or have them for a bit nothing like that. Also my fiancé has been in a residential rehab facility for almost a year now, he was in jail for 13 months prior to that so I’ve been doing everything by myself this whole time. The past few months he has been able to help financially since they allowed him to get a job and when he comes by for home visits we spend time together and he spends time with the kids. During home visits he had the expectation that we have sex every home visit which was multiple times a week yes once I started getting sick from the pregnancy the first week he understood but now he’s not very understanding, he keeps saying how I’m acting as if I got somebody else, how someone else must have my attention because he doesn’t etc. I keep explaining to him how sick I am and how mentally exhausted I am from everything I do. I have even expressed to him how depressed I feel and he keeps claiming he understands but his words and actions say different. I am just so over the constant arguments, this literally isn’t new either every time I’m pregnant we fight for most of the pregnancy because he doesn’t get things how he wants them. I don’t know what to do because he claims I don’t show him enough attention, we talk for hour upon hours on FaceTime, we see each other during the week when his new work schedule allows. I give him compliments, I do slight flirting like calling him sexy, being on FaceTime while in a bra. When he came over the last two times we had sex even though I said no at first I did end up agreeing which resulted in me being sick right after because all the movement. He expressed that because I said no at first that he doesn’t even count those times as me considering his feelings and wanting to be intimate. I want to be I really do but I just feel like a literal mess. I don’t know what to do, I find it so difficult to be sexual and flirt at a very sexual level when that’s like the last thing on my mind. I can’t deal with all of this new added stress I’m already mentally burned out which I expressed several months ago, he ignored that. I have no one really to talk to about this I’m sorry the post is so long. I guess any advice on how I can do better or things that may help this issue…I don’t know really maybe even some uplifting comments because I feel beyond low. Thank you💙