Feel like I need to end this marriage

Maybe consider marriage counselling? It doesn’t sound like he would be super open to it but maybe if you tell him how it’s affecting you and that you’re wondering if this marriage is the best choice for you, he may reconsider. I don’t really have any advice except be patient and set some boundaries but with love so he doesn’t take it the wrong way. Like “as your wife I would appreciate it a lot if you didn’t call me horrible things when you are upset. It doesn’t make me feel good. I love you and I wouldn’t speak to you that way” - with my hubby if I just come at him like HOW DARE YOU SPEAK TO ME LIKE … (even though that is my first instinct) it never goes well. When I am gentle he sees that it is only him that is loud / heated then takes a step back

Maybe speak to him regarding all your concerns and tell him it’s making you not want to stay in this marriage. He needs to know you won’t put up with his awful behaviour anymore

I feel the biggest problem in many marriages is lack of communication and this is where relationships tend to break down. Tell him exactly how you feel but he needs to have the ability to listen to your feelings. Sit him down and tell him you both either want to make this work and if so changes need to be made otherwise you both need to make a decision. Hopefully this will allow him to see how serious you are. All the best hun

Speak to him about it, set boundaries and if that doesn't work then get family involved to speak about his behaviour and that you cannot stay in a marriage like this. If not family then local imam can explain.

Go through the steps and see what works for you. Even if it mesns separating from each other for a while so he realised and changes his ways. Thats one of the steps before divorce.

Girllll if he’s selfish out there f nowhere then may be it’s the third person in your marriage!! But speak to him about everything what bothers you and also listen his perspective too!

The swearing etc is not on 😕
Where's the sudden change come from? Was he previously appreciative of your hard work and sacrifices when he was experiencing hardship? If it's a whole mentality shift there might be something else behind the scenes. Not necessarily a person, could just be some kind of podcast or something influencing his thoughts. Without more info and a chat with him, you won't know 🤷🏻‍♀️

Thank you ladies i will have a very serious conversation with him, he is usually not the type to be influenced by anyone and his mum is lovely. He is just battling with something and is so scared to put his guard down for some reason. When he is in a good mood he mentions how grateful he is for all i have done and that it is a big achievement he has me as his wife. But he ruins it all when he gets moody and at that time it is his way or no way, which happens very frequently. I have reached a stage to avoid asking him for anything unless he offers to avoid conflict which is not healthy

Like for instance today he offered for us to go away, since I am not working at the moment he usually provides financially and i manage what he gives to shop for the kids, me and for the house and I save the remaining for any surprise. So he asked how much i have saved and said we should go away with that money, i said that money is for our expenses and any surprises not to go away with. So he said ok lets just not go away his money saved is for safety!!! Which i think is just unfair

For his safety? Why does he feel threatened 😕

No idea!! This is one of the issue he is always so guarded and defensive and seems to be scared i will take advantage of him if he is too nice which he has mentioned so many times

In Islam your money is your money and his money is yours so don’t let him try to convince you to use your money to go away with