Cramped living

I'm feeling very stressed at the moment. My daughter is 7½ months old now. We currently live in a 1 bedroom flat up 3 flights of stairs. She sleeps in a cotbed next to our bed. We just about squeeze in to our space. I get anxiety every time I have to go out because I need to carry the pushchair, my baby & the nappy bag. Also, our window leaks in bad weather & another has no sealant so let's in a cold draught. I've contacted the building company so many times, but I keep getting fobbed off. My parter works nights & does overtime when he can. I'm really feeling at the end of my tether at the moment 😮‍💨😔

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I'm sorry momma you're going through this. Just keep praying and have faith. Easier said than done and it can really pull you down but we all become strong for our babies. Trust ne..been there. Hang in there. God provides. You can send me messages of you need somebody to talk to.

I know how you feel 🙁 I have to live with my mom, so I just live out of 2 extremely small bedrooms. I'm lucky to have 2 rooms to live out of I know, but I have NO room for all of her toys and it's just not safe for her! I am extremely nervous for her to start crawling. I feel terrible about my situation and need to move ASAP to a safer living situation.

you're right. Thanks. I often bottle things up, then I bubble over. I don't pray enough & I should do just to gain some strength

that must be a challenge as well. Hopefully something different is on the horizon soon.

@Amelia same for you! :)

@Amelia it's okay. We all tend to do the same. I've complained so much about my life. It's just gonna get better.. I promise. 🥰

I’m in the exact same situation. I feel for us sister. I feel like my back is going to break.

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓