Still breastfeeding older baby?

Is anyone else still breastfeeding an older baby/toddler?
My LO is 16 months and I still feed him to sleep for naps and bedtime. I think I’m feeling nearly ready to stop as I’m starting to find i get very quickly irritated if he doesn’t fall asleep quickly and don’t enjoy the feeding that much anymore. But then when I think about stopping I feel so emotional/cry and can’t imagine not feeding anymore. I know pregnancy hormones are probably both contributing to the feelings of wanting to stop, and to all the emotion around it but I just feel so conflicted. I also know I don’t want to tandem feed so I definitely want to have stopped before this one is due, but then that’s obviously a good few months yet.
I know it’s such a personal decision for everyone but just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat.

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I'm not in the same boat, but still to stop breastfeeding is hard decision in any point. I made decision when my last baby was 1 month, as it took too much from me. I cried for 1 day and then understood that it made me feel better emotionally. So just when you ready do it. It will be emotional anyway doesnt matter sooner or later ❤️

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I’m still feeding my nearly 23 month old!! It’s definitely hard work these days and I’m suffering with a bit of aversion. I’m finding I’m having to put some boundaries in place, only one go on each side as she likes to switch constantly etc. We’ve started lying down together to go to sleep at night so she’s not feeding to sleep at bedtime as much and she’s been ok with that, but she does feed to sleep for naps most of the time still. She’s an absolute boob monster though, I’m kinda hoping she self weans when my milk dries up but I have a feeling that won’t happen. Ideally, I won’t have to tandem feed, but I’ve also read that can be a lovely way for siblings to bond 🥰 I just don’t know how to wean her, there’s not much help for stopping breastfeeding!

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Not an older baby/tod but my boy is almost 8months and he has increased his feeds so much and they aren't as long so I think pregnancy has messed with the supply but deffo want to stop before new bubs is here. I find feeding painful (sensitive nipples and boobs and teething not a fun mix) and I'm getting irritated as well especially with the fussiness. So no help really but your not alone 😘 I'm hoping to make it to a year and stop providing he doesn't self ween, will give me 3 months before new bubs comes along xx

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I'm breastfeeding my 10 month old, but we are working on weaning. We were planning to at a year anyway, but my supply had definitely dropped, she's got a tooth that she can get quite chompy with, and I also can't take my anti sickness meds long term with breastfeeding. I feel incredibly sad about stopping, even though it will give me so much freedom back. I love those cuddles with her, and knowing I can solve anything with a bit of boob!

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I’m in the exact same position as you with my 18 month old! Last night for the first time I managed to get him to go to sleep with no boobie just a bottle of warm milk but he then woke at 11,12,1 and then again at 2 when I gave in 😫 it’s so difficult to stop, I don’t like the idea of tandem feeding because my first fed every hour until he was 8 months and if my second is the same I’m worried about the demand on my body. Also feeling the aversion thing too which makes me feel so awful because breastfeeding him has been such a blessing!

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Hey, I am still feeding my almost 28 month old 🙈🙈 and I am 12 weeks pregnant. I cut out day time feeding telling him we only have it at nap time and bed time. But he still wakes over night. He will not drink anything else except water in a cup. My good friend tandem fed and she said that the baby being on the breast made the toddler stop coming for milk and they started to eat more and their dad would put them to bed for a few weeks until they weaned. I don't have any real advice. I am just winging it 🙈 I don't have the energy to put up with tantrums of him not having it right now. 🥺 Wishing you all the best ❤️

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