Sleep training

We used Ferber and it worked a treat! He got the hang of it really quickly though which made the whole thing a lot lot easier x

Claire did you read a book or just googled how to do it?

Also, my baby sleeps in a next to me cot so I'm not sure how to tackle night wakings, am I going to just lay there? Leave? What do I do?

Sleep training isn’t recommended until 6 months at the earliest and I wouldn’t try it until baby is in their own room as it can be more confusing for them if they know you’re there but not responding

We used the Ferber method as well. It took 4 days. We would leave her for 10 minutes and if she was still crying we would give her a cuddle and then start the 10 minutes again. Once used to it she would settle within five minutes.

I used pick up-put down and it worked for me

We have baby in own cot (our health visitor is aware) and he sleeps through the night. I’m currently practicing putting baby down for naps not 100% asleep and plan to use Ferber method sleep training if I need to. My lo sleeps straight for 10-11 hours at night but a poor day napper 4x 30 min sessions. Just want him to get used to going down awake and putting himself to sleep without bottle or needing us for comfort eventually.

Have you ever tried the side lying feed? Baby falls right back asleep on me this way.

Is your baby crying or anything? If mine won’t go back down he’s usually gassy so I walk around with him upright for about 10 mins until he burps and he likes to be bounced back to sleep. Also could find a song they like and sing it, hearing your voice helps settle them if they’re crying.

Sometimes I just try popping the binky in first and he falls right back asleep too.

makes sense and I don't want to transition her to her own room yet. So I still need to find a way to re settle her at night without the constant breast

yes I did many times but I fall asleep and I am a very deep sleeper, recently I woke up with her still on my side and my other daughter behind me, which doesn't leave me much space and my eldest daughter pushes me also. So I am extremely scared of sleeping in the same bed. So when she wakes at night, sometimes she sleeps if I hold her hand, but as the night progresses she wants the breast more and v more, but she doesn't suckle, just falls asleep. If not then she cries.

I only have one babe so I have no advice for how to sleep with your oldest too. I wonder what if she could have a bed next to yours so you could have more space ☺️

I personally cosleep and baby falls back asleep either snuggling with me or nursing. I end up nursing every couple of hours some nights, particularly when he is teething or learning new skills and going through a sleep regression.

I read that when you nurse at night you release hormones that make baby sleepy and then it releases hormones that help you get back to sleep easier, so it’s natural that you would fall asleep that way. I wonder if after baby falls asleep and you wake back up if you could move baby back into her cot then?

Just some thoughts, hope you find you your rhythm soon! 🫶🏻

Thanks so much for taking the time to answer! I sometimes manage to move her back to her cot, but sometimes she wakes up and cries again, and sometimes I fall asleep and wake up super scared! Oh well...we will find a way, still not sure how but it's useful to hear all the different experiences xx