How often do you all see your in-laws?

Seeing mine once every week since having my baby girl - it’s bloody exhausting 😂😅 …!

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We were seeing my husbands parents every week. Then our boundaries got crossed and disregarded when we discussed the problem, so now maybe once a month if that.

My in laws have asked to see them every other week, but have cancelled on us about 12-13 times since our little one was born so my husband and I have stopped trying.

We had to move far away a couple months after she was born.. so we see them now like twice a year

Once every 2-3 months. No respect for boundaries, no effort from our part. Not to mention there’s no effort from their part either so i feel fine about it

Hardly ever, no effort from both of us or them. But I’m fine with is honestly

We are both very close with our in laws. When I gave birth with my first they came up saw the baby and me and brought us breakfast the next day and left. Then my mom was with us for a week to help me out. Then my in laws came up for a weekend and got their own Airbnb bought brought their kids (husband is the oldest by 11 years) and they spent a few hours with us and then we saw them the next day. Then the next week my mother in law came up for a few days to help me and it was a little stressful having everyone visiting so often but everyone was very good at respecting my boundaries and if I needed time alone with baby they gave it to me. If I needed quiet they would do it etc. my mother in law organized all of my daughters clothing and closet since I had my daughter a month early her room wasn’t done. My mom and sister finished the baby room. It was so much help but it DEFINITELY does die down. After a month or so it should slow down, if you need it to slow down I’d tell them that

Cont. you need a break and want a weekend as a family. You are creating a family and should get time to bond with your new one too!

Maybe once every 2-3 months. Even that's a lot.

I just recently rekindled my relationship with the in-laws. After over a year of not talking. We moved out of state, which I'm thankful for because now 2 times a year.

Every weekend 🫠

I don’t have them 😯

See mine once or twice a year. My husband is the only one who lives in state and we see my side 1-2 times a month depending on birthdays or holidays. His is spread out across many states so we are lucky if it’s once a year

2x a week cus they babysit

I live with mine and it's exhausting lol my MIL doesn't help much, all she wants to do is be out of the house, everyday. The most she will do is change a diaper. His grandpa on the other hand is very hands on, helps, buys clothes, plays with my son and everything. Lol

I can't wait to move out. 😩

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Thank you so much for the feedback all! Been really eye opening and suggests I should deffo cut my visits with them back! 😆😂🫣 !! They spoke about going abroad with my little girl today - like a 4 hour flight just them and her - NOT happening! 😂 honestly 🤦🏻‍♀️xx

@Katie omg how is that even a thought.

yes, you need to lay the boundaries, they clearly have little common sense.

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How do you handle finances as a part time worker and your spouse makes significantly more than you and holds it over your head?

So frustrating that I’m not allowed to spend money but he flippantly can whatever he wants. I am the default parent, and just because I don’t get a paycheck doesn’t mean it’s not work I deserve a reward from. I feel so alone.

How would you react ?

Today was my husband's day off and he woke up around 6 having coffee in bed and was on his phone. . At 7 a.m my little boy woke up and asked to go pee then at 7:30 asked to eat. I then took him and went downstairs to make breakfast and he got so frustrated and started an argument that on his day off he can't relax. I must say he was not sleeping, he was just staring at his phone and now he ignores my child and me.

help

I have two kids and I’m just fed up, years of physical and mentally abuse and the constant cheating my kids deserve better. my kids can’t goto school yet and I don’t trust local daycares. how do I still work my part time with little to no family ?

Spouse going to be away for work for half the week for most of this month maybe more .. any tips for me? Details below

So my husband is going to be working away from home and staying in a hotel for about half the week every week this month and possibly longer. This is entirely new to us. My son is 3 and has never experienced his dad being gone for that long. I don’t think he will be entirely devastated honestly because I’m the preferred parent but I still expect some challenges. Some things to consider: I do have some family in the area, I don’t drive and the grocery store in walking distance is expensive lol. So we plan on making sure I have a good grocery stock and can ask for help if I need it I guess for during the day .. but any other tips? I can’t shake the feeling that I’m missing something I should be preparing to make it easier in advance ..

2 weeks

I finally got my own apartment and left my husband 2 weeks ago today. Im honestly surprised how civil he's been. But I knew that he'd be with other women immediately, and I thought I was okay with that. The fact that he's still even with nothing to lose because I left, lying to me about being at another house is driving me crazy. I have his location and drove by there the other day so I know. Its. It healthy for me to concern myself with I know. But I cant handle the quickness and the lies. I know this is how he copes, he cant be alone and probably why hes being so nice after I left.

If you’re not close to your mom - what went wrong?

Now that I have kids I want a strong and close relationship with my babies. Something I didn’t have with my mom and still don’t.

My mom and I see each other once or twice a year and that’s if I go there to visit her. We don’t talk on the phone unless she wants to call me to ask my younger sisters to go back home.

Never comes over to see my 3 kids never calls to check on them avoids me when she sees me out with my family.

When I was a teen we argued non stop. For years until I left the house. But before that I was always the good child always listened always did what she asked. I was the oldest so did everything for her went above and beyond. I bought up my younger sisters stayed up late nights fed them changed nappies bath them took them out on weekends. My sisters don’t remember her doing any of these things because she never did them. And now she hates them staying at my house she calls non stop.

She’s manipulative and twists things a lot. I have other siblings and she pits us against each other without us realising. Only now as an adult I’m picking up on things and how she manipulates around things.