Can't stand my mom's comments

Anybody else struggle with your own mom's comment about your baby?
I have a 6 weeks old and everytime I videocall with her (we live 8000km away) she makes stupid comments like:
" he really doesn't care!" Because he wasn't watching at her on the phone
"I hope he gonna change and start to like shopping". Because i told her I struggle to go buying some clothes alone because he constantly wanted to be breastfed.
"He looks so serious" because he wasn't smiling when i put on the video...

She also is not caring at all and never really ask for him or for me either. She mainly talk about herself and her pets and house. She is the type of grand ma that wants to see the baby and buy him stuff but is not interested at who he is.
I knew that this is how she is but can't help at being everytime a little more disappointed by her and her actitud. I also can't faint being happy with her so of course i always tell her not to comment this way and then she say she have to go and cut the video.

Now she gonna visit for the first time in few days and I m already upset with all the comments she surely gonna make...

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What's the issue with telling her all that? Nothing will change if you don't react. You have to cut the video. You don't have to be nice to people just because it so happens they are your mom. You are a mother first and need support or at least absence of bothering. You are not a daughter/a child, you are your own adult and a mom. I really hope you have the courage to only nurture relationships based on mutual love and respect. You have all the right to be happy and those who really love you won't ignore your feelings! Say "no" as many times as needed.

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