Babydaddy? favoritism..? or he's being forced to take care of his other kids because he's damn sure not helping with ours we have a baby girl together.. should I keep his other kids out of our convo's or continue throwing it in his FACE!!?

Lol I'm gonna try to make this short but me and my daughter father been together for going on 4 years.. no we don't live together he would rather continue living with his mom I've tried everything to get him to be more involved and help with our daughter and he's not... hasn't brought her anything since she's been born he might come see her for maby 10 mins at the longest and then he'll leave he's not physically or finacially helping me with her... however he has his other two kids like it's nothing I'm talking day in and day out... at his moms house including weekends because even before i got pregnant he's always had his kids more then there mother.. he picks them up from school and just physically involved.. he drops them off to her for school nights and picks them back up at school.. sometimes his other daughter might stay with the mom once in awhile but majority of the time both of his kids are with him alotttt I can never even get him to watch his daughter for me while i go to work it's like he's refusing to do everything i ask especially with help , he'll tell me ask him if she need something which I shouldn't even have to do then when i do ask he still doesn't do anything maby like weeks down the line.... he'll say he's gonna spend time with her then don't AT this point the relationship is irrelevant to me because he's been getting under my skin for the past 7 in a half months.. he's physically there for his other kids but not for ours? what sense does this make and everytime I throw that in his face he ignores it and can't never deny it or defend hisself because he know it's wrong and it's true..

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Girl he knows exactly what hes doing just like you know its a problem hes know its a problem too but hes choosing to not care or be there and telling you that he doesnt care straight up put him on child support

Lol i tell him im going too i told him a couple times i will and he gets so pissed that I bring it up and upset saying that it's pointless and getting courts involved is also pointless but I'm ready to proceed to doing that and also said I'm just like his kids mom threatening him with child support but she never actually got courts involved or child support I'm assuming because he's actually doing what he's supposed to do. But he's taking me as a joke frfrrr

I wouldn’t keep bringing up his other kids. If anything it seems like it’s pushing him further away. Does he have issues with caring for babies? It seems his older kids are a lot older maybe that could be an added layer? (Not excusing his behavior just a thought)

I agree hands on he doesn't even seem like he knows what he's doing the times he does be around to see her... but I feel like atleast try I shouldn't have to always be around as if you don't know fully what your doing but his other kids are 6 and 9

He may truly not know. I think I would try to have a calm constructive conversation with him not involving his other kids so he is less likely to get defensive. Also, if he lives with his mom she may be helping more than you realize and from your perspective he’s super hands on.
I know a few dads who always “have their kids” but it’s really their mom, grandma, aunts, etc taking care of the kids

I witnessed that a few times from when i was over his mom house and his son have a hard time not listening and his mom kept having to tell his son stop doing this that and the third also our daughter was there with us but she was sleep we was sitting in his mom house for hours and he was on and off sleep while his son was just doing whatever..

His mom house was filthy dirty honestly no food or anything.. it doesn't even seem sanitary for our daughter to be over there frequently especially when she start crawling

Sounds like to me it’s not favoritism he’s just a show dad and his moms doing the heavy lifting. So if you want anything you’d probably have to do the court route but understand that could mean you daughter going there for court ordered visits

Lol i wonder if he lived by himself how would that work because he been living with his mom since him and his First Bm broke up like 6 years ago..

How old are you ? And you said going on 4 years, are you still in a relationship with him ? I think if you guys are still together, then maybe it will work out for everyone if you start moving as a family unit with all of the kids, including the other children he has. He may not know how to take care of a young baby, like the other comments point out.

Is he embarrassed to truthfully admit to that then I'll understand but not saying anything and expecting me to assume that is not fair lol.

May be a combination of embarrassment plus pride. If you are old enough to get your own apartment and you guys are still together, I would suggest you trying to move in together so that you both could learn how to be a family together, with all the kids. . . It doesn’t make sense to start a family with someone who is not actively around, because that’s more-so coparent if or actually just being a single mother, since he doesn’t help and isn’t around.

Hes gonna end up calling your bluff and really act up because he feels as if he has a chain on you and you basically “threatened” and never actually went through with it thats why its best you do because your baby is gonna keep growing get older and will be needing stuff that maybe at the time you cant complete due to watever and BOOM there he is no responsibility what so ever for yalls child and hes living his best life NOOO PUT HIM ON CHILD SUPPORT AND ITS NOT BECAUSE YOUR BITTER IS BECAUSE YOU NEED HELP!!🫶🏽

I haven't threatened him in a few months i stopped doing that honestly because i know when i proceed to do it im not gonna tell him i gave him enough warnings and times but yeah I definitely caught on to that with the threats he probably think im playing.

Just go for it he clearly knows what he doing is wrong but he doesn’t care so you dont care and take that ass to court

If you have his full name and social number and address all you have to do is file

And if hes on the birth certificate thats even better because he declared the father by law and the state so it will be easy

Lol he's not on the birth certificate dumbass left the hospital and went to work the next day I got discharged like the next day and he wasn't expecting that he told me I should've stayed so he wasn't there to sign it so I told him where to go to sign it when she was like 2 months and he hasn't done it yet . She does have his last name tho and he knows that🤦🏽‍♀️

Good girl all you had to do is go file they will GRANT YOU you gotta do whats best for your baby because if roles were reversed ill be down there asap you not wrong at alll!!

Oh girl he playing in yo
Face its like hes likes getting you hyped up then the nonchalant answers 🙄 definitely call someone and set this up

Yeah lol I could've been did it and he knows I have all of his information full name address birthday the only thing I don't know literally is his social !! 🤷🏽‍♀️

Im be straight up if a man or women doesnt want to see their kids shit or at least help the mama

He just doesnt care at all its like yeah he has a daughter but he doesn’t care because he assuming since the child is with you he doesn’t have to help nor want to help

Then why don't he just leave me alone completely then? like he'll literally continue texting and texting my phone about irrelevant shit once in awhile he'll check and ask are we ok as in his daughter and I.. and I give him the same responses I never tell him we're not ok.. because he should know we're not like he ask stupid questions when I fall back and try to get peace here comes bothering me.. like why not just walk away completely if you clearly don't give af.. why should I..

Girl fuck the social tbh he can be served at his address and boom its over

AND IF HE DOESNT SHOW UP TO COURT AND YOU DO YOU MIGHT GET IT SINCE HE DIDNT APPEAR ITS A GOOD CHANCE

His mom address whom he been leaching off for the last 6 years💀💀😂😂

Don't they need a paternity ? I live in Virginia I see you live in Virginia as well maby you might know lol.. because would've if refuse to take a paternity test and don't show in court they still gonna take his money out his checks tho right ?

Are you cool with his mom you can swab her ass

I honestly dont know and do you get food stamps because you can call your case worker and they can help you start filing asap

Because you dont live with him thats clear and he LITERALLY HAS TO PAY BECAUSE THE CHILD LIVES WITH YOU

Dm girl i wanna help you out to the fullest and we with in va

I just sent you a Dm🫶🏽

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