Help please.. little lady won’t sleep at night

My little lady is 10 days old today and she won’t sleep at night.. she will only sleep on me or my partner and every time we put her down she screams so much that I have to pick her up again as it breaks me hearing her cry.
She is awake from 9pm till 4am eyes wide open and even bottles aren’t sending her off to sleep she just screams. Literally don’t no what else to do now.

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Have you tried white noise when you transfer her to the crib

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Literally tried white noice, swaddle bag, everything :( x

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I had this when my LG was born. You gotta remember that she has no idea that we sleep at night and that she’s been inside you for 9 months and probably doesn’t want to be alone. Being close to you will comfort her. My LG would only sleep on me for a good few months. It feels never ending at the time but I promise you it won’t last forever. She’ll be asleep in her own room before you know it. You got this 😊 me and my partner took shifts throughout the night and we both held her, so we could both get a few hours sleep in the night.

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My little man is like this, he’s 3w old. The health visitor said it could be he likes to hear my heartbeat as that’s what he’s been used to for months while I carried him, sounds so cute. I play white noise he likes the shhhhh shhhhh on it and it helps a little x

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This will sound like such crap advice but, we had to just ride it out. our boy did this. Anywhere that wasn’t me or his dad hed get fussy and cry. Nothing would work, no white noise or nightlights or swaddles. It feels like this is how your life will be and you’ll be so tired and so stressed but we found it easier to take shifts. I’d take the night shift and my partner would take the day, like said, it lets you have a couple hours sleep each. It didn’t go on for too long, maybe after 2 months (which sounds long, but time flies) he’d finally sleep through and in his own cot xxx

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Sleep with her sheets. Smell is HUGE to newborns. Buy extra sets and sleep for a few days. It’s gonna sound gross, but your natural pheromones you out out through sweat and milk are their favorite scent. Pits and boobs 🤣 they can smell you from I believe it was two feet away at this stage.
Riding it out will KILL your mental health. I would try even sleeping with her clothes! Taking shifts will only get so far as I’m not sure if the work arrangements. But I would try the scent

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My boy is 13 days old and honestly he’s the same he feeds then wants to just be on me and if he’s not he’s unsettled! I feel you honestly ❤️❤️

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It’s the hardest thing and it’s breaks my heart when she is screaming and I can’t console her unless she is literally laying on me. And people think I’m exaggerating when I say it’s from 9-4 every night she is asleep during the day then at 9 she is wide awake. X

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in the same boat with my little boy he’s a week old today. Even tried keeping him awake in the day with interactions always finds a way to sleep in the day then is a fuss pot at night. 🥲

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This might help: to work on day and night. Making it light and noisy during the day. Dark, quiet and 'boring' at night. Try not to jiggle her at night, just hold her and keep the light low and everything quiet. During the day have the TV or radio on for background noise. Put her in bright day light during the day, take her out of a walk or something.

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I use an electric heated pad (one that I used to use for my bad back) in the crib for a while becure putting him down. Sometimes I used added white noise.

They also say you need to find the sweet spot before putting them down too. They say after 15 minutes of falling asleep as then they're in deep sleep.

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