Husband can’t keep up with me…. Multitasking etc.!

So… I’m a severe asthmatic and had an episode over the weekend. Basically the doctor told me to rest and sit still as much as possible.

My husband flipped out at this…. He got into a bad mood and started ranting. I asked him to get me something from downstairs and he came up a half an hour later saying “I was trying to feed the baby and I cannot keep up with it all”. I replied, “keep up with what”? He said feeding baby and giving her meds.

That’s two things…. Seems to me he’s afraid to be with the baby alone so he called his mother to come over while he sat there and watched YouTube videos. She was there for about 4 hours and then his cousin came over the next day for 4 hours and he was gone the entire time.

He didn’t get any of his chores done, not even washing baby bottles. He left them on the sink because he was “too overwhelmed” since I was sick. I’m like, you had a full 8 hours free, am I just free childcare for you?

I get her up every morning at 6:30, get dressed and ready for work, wake her up, wipe her down with a washcloth, dress her, feel her, give meds, log into work and answer a few emails, put her down to play, watch her while a work, still do some cleaning throughout the day, cook dinner, bathe her and then put her to bed. I mean, I understand that men and women are biologically different, women are better at multitasking but I mean, c’mon. He’s always trying to get out of doing anything. It’s like he wants to parent from a far and just come and go as he pleases. He’s stuck in the 1950s. Anyone else’s husband like this?

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My husband is similar but I do know that I tend to put a lot of pressure on him to do things the way I want them done so he feels like giving up or not doing them rather than just learning how I want them done. Obviously we’ve got stuff to worth through there haha.

😱😱😱😱my boyfriend is total opposite. This post triggered me though cuz my ex was how your husband is but worse. Overtly refused to help. Told me moms don't get to rest. Probably would have told me that it didn't matter if I had been sick that I needed to keep on the duties and child care

I'm sorry. My knee jerk reaction is to throw the man away but I don't jump there

Id talk to him and tell him how you feel and that you need him to step it up.

Biological difference or not. - if you can do it, he can do it. I don't accept that as an excuse from him

Biological is bs. If a man wants to he will. My man feeds the babies and changes them. He watches them. He sleeps on couch on nights he doesnt work and watches them all night so that I can sleep from 10pm-9. Whenever hes home he will help wash bottles too. Its really annoying when other guys think they dont have to do anything

Totally agree with the above ^^ my husband does everything that I do. There’s really no excuse

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