Anyone else been through a relationship breakdown?

I’ve recently made the decision to divorce my husband after there being a lot of domestic abuse since having our LG. I know it’s the right thing to do for her as I don’t want her growing up and seeing the way I was treated and then accept it from a partner herself. Despite that, I feel so low about everything in the evenings. I feel like I’m never going to find happiness and will be single and isolated forever. I’ve not been single for 12 years and miss having someone to share things with at the end of the day. He turned everything around on me and made me into the villain for leaving so everything feels pretty bleak right now. I also desperately wanted more babies and know now that my dream of that is probably over too. Does anyone have an advice or any happy stories of coming out the other side of something like this?

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I’m sorry I don’t have any advice but I just wanted to say I think you are incredibly brave and your little girl is so lucky to have such a strong mum. You’ve made the best choice for both of you and the impact this will have on her life will be huge 💕
I’m sorry for what you’ve been through since your girl was born and that it feels so tough at the moment, this journey is tough enough as it is, I can’t imagine. You are doing amazing! Do you have any local baby groups you can go to? I go to one at a local church hall and there are so many mums in all sorts of different situations xx

So my husband (partner of 15 years) left me for another woman when I was 17 weeks pregnant. I was absolutely devastated to have everything I ever hoped for fall apart. I never thought I’d be able to move on, to find love again or have anymore children etc but a year down the line I am so happy, have my independence and have loved solo parenting! I’ve met someone who loves me more than my ex ever did and is great with my 9 month old too! It may take some time but trust me, you will feel so much better! I know it probably feels so isolating right now but there are sooo many other people out there going through similar things so please don’t feel alone! It will get better I promise ❤️

Hi hope you are well. No happy stories here still on it but I've left my partner and I've a 9months baby. I can only appreciate the peace of mind of not being in a hostile environment and relationship and even though I also don't know if I'll ever find happiness or have more kids I can appreciate my baby growing up healthy and happy that makes everything worthwhile :)

No advice but sending hugs to you 🫂

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Editing to add - there were alot of staff outside though and it wouldve been harder to be faster than us at stopping him eat things as we were both watching like hawks. They say they have 1:3 ratio of staff and that they would notice.

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