Mis suegros se dieron cuenta que me molesta que lleguen sin avisar

Hola, la semana pasada, como ya me había pasado varias veces desde que nació mi bebe. Mis suegros llegaron sin avisar, nisiquiera estábamos en mi casa y aun así llegaron a la plaza en donde estábamos y pretendíamos hacer cosas (qué ya no hicimos por que llegaron ellos y quisieron ir a comer). En fin qué esta vez ya no hice el mínimo esfuerzo por ocultar mi incomodidad y molestia ante la situación (cosa que mi esposo me reprochó)
Pero ayer mi suegra hablo con mi esposo y le dijo que se dieron cuenta de que me moleste y que ya no iban a llegar sin avisar.
Me siento mal, por que me sentí aliviada cuando mi esposo me dijo eso, era lo que quería. Pero me siento mal de que tuvieran qué darse cuenta de esa forma y de que piensen qué no quiero estar con ellos o algo así.
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Muy común. El es el que esta mal. Tienen que avisar. Y obvio no tienes porque ocultar tus sentimientos. Son válidos.
El es quién les tiene que dar su lugar. A su familia. A veces como que cuesta entender que con la boda y la llegada de los hijos la familia de él, ya pasa a segundo plano. Ahora la familia son su esposa y bb.

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Me pasó múltiples veces. Venían a querer mover el horario de sueño. Nombre. Los desterre como 4 meses

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Siempre una es la mala . Y se tiene que aguantar . Pero porque ellos no se pueden tomar el tiempo y hablar ,mínimo para ver si el bebé no estará en su siesta o están en casa . Nimodo . Ya se dieron cuenta y que mejor !! Un estrés menos

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Ni te preocupes! Las personas que se ofenden al establecer límites, son aquellas qué se benefician de que no los tengas. 🫂

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