Want to try swinging or a threesome but don’t know how to ask partner

Not child-related, sorry! So I have never been able to fully explore my sexuality. I’m pretty certain I’m bi and I’ve told my partner that but I’ve never been with a woman. I also feel like I am a lot more adventurous or experimental than him in the bedroom. Anyway, there’s nothing wrong with our sex or our sexlife whatsoever, I just feel like we’re in our 30s and I’d like to experiment by inviting other people into the bedroom with us whilst we are still relatively young lol but my partner has always been very insecure about this subject. He worries he’s not good enough for me sexually (when in fact he is a gorgeous professional rugby player who is WAY out of my league) and he doesn’t seem keen on the idea of a threesome at all when I’ve mentioned it fleetingly. It’s something I feel like he would enjoy if he actually did it but how do I bring up this conversation properly? And for any couples who have been in this position and tried it, do you have any advice?

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I think the best thing you can do is be straightforward. Just let him know you enjoy your sex life, but feel like you weren't able to fully explore your sexuality before, and you would like to do that exploring now with him by bringing in another person. The main thing is to respect his feelings/boundaries. If he says he's not interested, do not push. Even if you really do believe that he will enjoy it, it's not your call to make for him.

I physically couldn’t do it when I have a partner. It would wind me up him touching her or watch her. Each to their own. But I feel that if your partner is saying no to another girl then he must really love and respect you because other lads would jump straight to it. To me it feels like cheating even if the partner is there and involved. I would be thinking is she/ he enjoying it more with them, why they staring more at them than me ect so I physically couldn’t do it because I’d end up in jail for beating them both up even if it was my idea 😂

I was the one to bring it up to my fiance and honestly after the first one I was hooked LOL. He was iffy but if you can have that open transparent conversation of this is something I'd like to try and if it isn't his thing after you've tried it I wouldn't push. But you could definitely reassure him exactly the way you said In the post how he is out of your league, make sure you have a safe word or a word to say to each other if there is something happening that either arent comfy with! Communication is the biggest factor when you're exploring together! I hope it works out for you! 💖

Like what? @Jaymee I’m genuinely curious

Ooo a few years ago I asked my husband if he had any fantasies. He said a threesome and it definitely hurt. I can’t do that for him, my heart would fall apart seeing him touch another women. Maybe start with validating how good he is. And start adding more kinky things in to your regular sex. If he opens up to new simple things he might open up to another person. This is really tough.

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