I want to flirt and talk to other men in married but unhappy

My husband is a business owner
We see each other 3 hours a day or less
I'm bored and feel like a single mum
I want attention from a man bc my husband is almost non existent in my life l.
when he's at work I reply to flirty dms
When he's back I delete all the evidence
It's hard to hide
Yes it's bad
Yes I know

We've had marriage problems for years now
He just became emotionally unavailable when he put the ring on my finger
He emotionally cheated a couple of years ago by sending flirty texts to his employee once. I read thru it, nothing serious not deep. Just flirty
Doesn't make me flirting with other guys an excuse. Just context

Men do it all the time
Men do it sitting right next to their lady
Most men cheat- sadly

My personality is very loving and affectionate and I want to give someone that and to receive it

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Have you told your husband why you’re feeling like you need more attention?

LEAVE THE MARRIAGE, you would never be happy , go live your life and get that love you truly deserve

If you are very well money wise and good living I wouldn’t leave man,i would try to sort it

Why do you stay in an unhappy marriage? I mean, I get what you're doing and why. You want affection and attention and to feel like a woman. I'm not judging. But if you don't get that from your husband why stay with him? Perhaps discuss an open marriage?

have children. Have separated in the past but doesn't work.

yeah but he's a narcissist. It's usually a dead end. Like talking to a brick wall

Why not leave him?

You need to leave… you’re not happy. He’s probably not either. Plus what you’re doing is wrong and I think you don’t like doing it it seems. I really do think you should guys should part ways and find more compatible partners. Best of luck to you

Girl! Talk to this man first please! But do it the right way so he gets it!

So your flirting with men while this man is working to provide for his family. If your bored get a job

love the bluntness😂 honestly he did it way before me and during pregnancy 🤰🏻 he once called his ex to meet up and once flirted with a employee whose the same age as his little sister but besides the point
It's clear we both need marriage therapy counselling or something

literally

Same but im not married unhappy & i flirt & talk to others for me im single i just still live with him no attention or love or affection nothing so i feel u

I'm so sorry. They leave us all on our own emotionally physically the least we can do for ourselves is find our own ways of coping right?! And imagine what they are doing behind our backs... their affection is being put in somewhere else in my case into his business... in

I'd speak how you feel, but seriously it's not worth it if your unhappy and want the attention you best off walking away from your marriage, flirting sexting or what ever is a form of cheating in most eyes. It's better to walk away then be the person who ruined it all because of lack of attention

yeah from others pov it seems ridiculous to stay In a miserable marriage, it's 2023 divorce is no longer stigmatised... but when you're in the position, you can ask anyone how difficult it is to just go get a divorce and leave. I believed if I ever got cheated on in a marriage I'd divorce him in a heartbeat🤣 Does not work like that.
However if there was physical abuse then I'd have to protect myself and the children and leave

If you want to stay with him and he don't give you what you need, won't try counseling or listen to you, then maybe discuss an open marriage? Or a hall pass? Or just go get you some strange🤣

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If your partner got a prostitute pregnant and then abandoned the child/ran away, what would be your response? Read…

So you were not in a relationship at the time or were about to be in a relationship, he gets the prostitute pregnant.
It’s her fault for not taking their morning after pill.
He tells her straight up that he’s not going to be involved and that she should terminate it.
She says that she won’t terminate and she hopes that he does stick around

So she deliberately gets pregnant, basically traps him

What would be your reaction?
he’s response is:
“She trapped me and it’s her fault for not taking the pill”

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This is a late night vent session obviously but l make it short. My boyfriend and I went to a basketball game in Orlando. His sister was babysitting our son. We come back tonight for her to say he slept for 6 hours and just woke up. Now what type of shit is that. I’ve been feeling lately like no one cares for me or helps out in the way I need them to. People want to see you smile but don’t try to find the cause when you’re not. I’m an only child and my mom lives far. I feel very alone even with the dad involved. I feel alone and like I’m doing it all. I can’t even imagine having another kid which I want but this life here is tough

Sex life is 🫠

Im a little desperate already . Im not a huge fan on blowjobs but I’m doing it because I know he likes it . If he wants it in a car, during work meeting , on the balcony, on the beach everywhere I’m okay to do that . However, I’m not getting anything in return. I mean the last time he went down was more than 1.5 years ago . Okay, I was pregnant maybe he did not feel like doing it while I had a belly as he told me . , but I’m not pregnant already for awhile and I’m always telling him that I want him to go down and he is always having an excuse like “tomorrow “ etc . At the beginning it was funny and I was like okayyy but now it’s not as I’m not enjoying our sex in general . Like the process itself does not make me finish . As I’m breastfeeding and super dry down there and I’m always telling him to put lubricant as it’s hurting me . And sometimes it feels like I am begging for that as he is more comfortable without it , but damn IM NOT OKAY without it . So basically I do not remember when was the last time I have finished during sex . I understand that now with a baby it’s hard to fully enjoy it and have enough time for everything. But still . Just kiss me and put your dick inside me does not seems sexy . To be honest I understand why in marriage women does not want to have sex . Like I feel like it’s already work that I have to do not a pleasure. I’ve been telling him that but as I can see no changes applied 🫠

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Let’s skip to the good part and just be besties? Text, call, ft.. play dates or just simply hang out. Just want a genuine mommy friend. I’m in NW Indiana but we can be long distance besties tooooo.

Any mamas looking for a bestie

Hello mamas,

I have lost alot of friendships the last year and 4 months my babygirl meand the world to me but I would love to talk to some other mamas and hopefully find a bestie that doesnt mind me not responding quickly but will also be keen to call or meet up I'm based in Christchurch, New Zealand. A bonus if you dont mind ranting from me and also might have a partner that could get along with my fiance