Vent - verbal abuse

I’m 22 wks pregnant and this second time round I’m finding it quite tough. Bub is sitting so low and if I try to lift I feel pressure, pain and uncomfort. My MIL will always help me with the shopping bags but my partner needs to be ‘reminded’. He says I need to tell him to
Help me with the bags, and quite frankly, it upsets me. He did it yesterday (mind you, they were heavy) and I was upset, he asks what’s wrong, does all the right things (what he thinks is right) hugs, kisses, but never acknowledged what he did. Turned into an argument and I just explained how I felt that he doesn’t seem to care much about me and that he should be a little bit more aware and supportive especially days when I don’t feel good. (Also, I worked 9 hours that day and came home complaining about the amount of pelvic pressure and pain). He ended up calling me a fucking stupid bitch in front of our 2 year old daughter, pointing at me and saying
That I was too precious…….

😔I have no energy to argue. And I never ever name call him.

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First of all, are you ok? Please
Message me if you need to talk to someone in private. Secondly, did he apologise for calling you that?! Or even acknowledge how wildly out of order that is?

thank God he msgd me this morning apologising. I stated clearly for him to never point and swear at me again at least not in front of our daughter.
Thank you for your concern 🙏🏼makes a big difference venting. I’m
Not one to want to vent to friends or especially family xo

How are you doing today? Xx

The scenario was brought up again today and I’ve just been crying and my nose started bleeding. It got verbal again and gave me his blessing to leave the house. Apparently he would help me pack to leave. I told him that I’m not looking for better or god forbid something were to happen to us I would never go in a relationship again. He’s currently really stressed with the investment property we have building(been a nightmare) but it feels like they’re the priority instead of his pregnant wife. He again said I should’ve just reminded him to pick up the bags for me but as soon as it was raised it just ticks him off and gets really angry.
If it wasn’t for the kids I would leave but then again saying that I would never make that my option. I don’t know if I should just ignore him for now. Sometimes I feel like I wish something bad were to happen to me so he can wake up maybe he would care for me… It’s ridiculous thinking like that I know but I feel so helpless sometimes .

Last night before bed, I was going to sleep on the couch, he came and got me. I told him you want to be left in peace fine I’ll leave you in peace I’ll sleep here (I didn’t want to go sleep with my toddler just so she doesn’t get used to me in bed with her- we just transitioned her in queen bed). He proceeded to get me in our bed and acts like nothing happened. I don’t know if he realises the wrongs he’s doing but man am I exhausted. I told him yesterday during the argument. No, you’re right, you’re not like the other Tom dick and Harry’s that treat their wives like crap but stop comparing and YOU be a better man. He says I am good, and I said be better, especially while I’m growing your child. 🫠🫠

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