Our baby is only 3 months old. I watch him 24/7 and still wake up twice every night. On his day off I give him the baby and have an extra lie in that’s when he puts cocomelon on for baby.
I’m so conflicted because I need that time to myself, he knows that it bothers me and baby is too young for tv. I see red when he does this and we sleep in different rooms now but he still continues to do this. I’m just venting
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Take the time for you.
That’s just as important and your babies development.
Maybe suggest dancing fruit instead or something?

He’s a parent too. He gets to make parenting decisions just as much as you.

I would have a proper chat with him about how you feel. I’m the same as I’ve heard screens under 18months not good for babies brain development. Does he put the baby in front of the tv so he can do things he wants? I spoke with my hubby about this & told him I feel strongly.
Maybe get your hubby to find other ways to play/spend time with your baby that don’t involve a screen? Toys or age appropriate activities they can do together. That way he still feels like he’s making a decision about the baby & has choices, not feeling like you’re making him do something, that’s what I did with my hubby & it’s great.
Although in this age of technology it will be inevitable to avoid screens all the time, I’m doing my best. If baby catches glimpse of tv as we’re turning it off, not much you can do about it, but I wouldn’t let baby watch tv that young or at least under 18months.

Also remember independent play is important for babies, even if you had a play pen so baby couldn’t see tv, but hubby can still monitor them, could be an idea?

I mean talk to him more about it but I personally don’t see a problem with tv. We always have it on. I don’t think it’s great he just puts him there but I don’t think it’s a problem. But son doesn’t really care for it because it’s just always there. But if you don’t like it and dad needs to interact with baby more then I would just discuss it with him

And if this is the only time they do tv I think it’s completely fine to do it once or twice a week for a little bit

I would talk to him more about it. I had this for a good few months but kept putting my boundary in place. Gave my partner (and other family members) all the explainations over and over. I have LO most of the time, so if the TV was on, I'd make a point of turning him away from it and engaging with him doing something else. I moved his toys to his own room for us to play without being distracted by it. Partner pretty much copies how I play with LO as he has seen/heard me and what I do. A couple of times, the TV was on and obvs LO is visually pulled to it and my partner noticed that he zombied out and wouldn't interact...from that point, after he'd enjoyed play and interaction with him, to seeing him like that, he totally got it and fully supports me. I don't think he was vehemently opposed to no TV, he just didn't understand why, especially as things were different when we were kids. So I think talk/explain more, maybe as others have said, guide/setup other play for them?

Maybe explain to him that 3m old brains are very different to ours and they don't need sensory stimulation or to be 'entertained' he can simply put the baby on the floor or in a bouncer to be more upright and carry on with his day. If baby gets unsettled maybe invest in a carrier so he can continue to get things done while settling and comforting 😊 I'd give him the benefit of the doubt that maybe he is just still learning how to be a parent! Dads don't research this stuff like mums do (generally) so we unfortunately have to educate them haha