Argument over buying Step child a vehicle

My thoughts have always been that new drivers should NOT have brand new luxury cars!! An older Safe car that can take a hit is my preference for a new driver

For a first car I had to save and match what my mom did and I definitely didn’t do new as first car… I still have my first car

I agree with new drivers should have an older, reliable, standard car. As they are likely to make mistakes on the road. Also I feel like a teen should save some money to go towards buying the car as well.

I agree with all of the above . That’s what I was trying to explain and I assume it was coming across as I didn’t want to help . I want to help but within reason . I don’t think it’s realistic to contribute giving her a Benz . I already agreed to giving my suv that I paid for . It’s in great condition and low mileage . I agree to the same concept where teens should also contribute to nicer things I think they’d learn to appreciate the value of things . He’s making it seem like I’m hating for him wanting to get her nice things saying “if we’re in a position to give her abc why not “ . Um no sir if we can pay for these things but still can’t afford to put money into savings we’re not in a comfortable position to “spoil” . And I explained if we get a Benz for one kid you have to be fair to both kids . You can’t give a Benz to one kid and then a civic to the next .

I also think it’s a horrible idea to get a new teenage driver a new luxury car. But some can’t be talked out of their ridiculous ideas. Maybe you should let him know that no matter what good contributions to the house can’t decrease because of it because insurance, gas and maintenance can be crazy for a luxury car. And the chances of that car being totaled in the first year is very high. I think it would be a bad idea

Will said child be helping pay for this Benz she wants… she better be looking at a used Benz

He thinks I’m being unreasonable. I def don’t think turning 16 is a right of passage to get a vehicle . On top of spoiling with luxury is just a hard no for me . He thinks I’m being to hard on the kids . Idk how else to make it make sense . I get that he wants to give his kids more than what he has but I don’t think we should be going out of our way to spoil . It’s doing them a disservice just give them things on top of the fact that they’ll just always expect the “nicer things”. Idk I’m just not in agreement to any of this at all and he’s making me feel like I’m being an a$$hole.

I'm in a similar boat. I had a 2010 vehicle, and just had to upgrade because I just had a baby. Hubs wants me to save it for the 15 year old... And I'm livid. That boy doesn't deserve a car.

I soooo agree with you !!! Just because that’s his first kid does not mean she needs a new luxury vehicle. Then for the second kid he’ll get a regular one cause “he learned” a lesson. SMH I know where you’re coming from

Um... also she is 13? Does she even have a learners permit?

Honestly I feel like there is a lot of time to talk about this and no promises need to be made to her. What if something happens in the next three years and your financial situation is not the same?

I do NOT think a new driver needs a new car, or even a nice used car, a paid off hand me down is best insurance wise. My 17yo SD doubled our insurance when we went from 2 cars to 3 and that is with good grades and safe driving.

A luxury car is ridiculous even if you can afford it.

I didn't get a car until I was 22 and done with college.

A Benz is expensive to repair, and it's hard to maintain the basics at home. You'll need a shop for most everything. I recommend a used Toyota or Subaru. They've got good safety features and are cheaper to ensure.

Do not let that man make you pay for that car! If you're paying what he'd be paying otherwise, you're still paying it!