Do Anyone Else’s Husbands Do This?

I first wanna start off by saying my husband is absolutely wonderful. I’m constantly thankful that God brought me to him, so with that being said, I just feel like I need to vent/ask a few things. Does anyone else’s husband‘s do stuff in regards to the baby that make you scratch your head and frustrate you? I left my babies clothes in the dryer because I wasn’t able to get around to getting them out, folding them and putting them away. My husband didn’t say anything, but he had to dry his clothes for work, so he took out the babies clothes to put in his own. He placed our infant baby’s clothes on top of the dryer, which is dusty and gross, has a ball of lint on it, and two grubby rags that were used to clean up nasty messes with Windex chemicals. So I threw the entire load back in the wash to wash it all again. That, along with other things that my husband and I disagree on in regards to rearing our child. I’m a lot more careful and he’s a lot more relaxed. I think most dads are kind of like this. Can anyone confirm or deny their experiences with their husbands?

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I confirm and I’m not married yet, just engaged. Lmao guys are a different breed I think. I constantly have to remind myself that what ours brains are wired to do (or what we would do in situations) are soooo different than our significant others hahaha.

You are not alone. 😂❤️

100%. Im usually really patient with things and don’t like to nag, but sleeping only 4-6 hours for the last month and a half,
I’m starting to lose my patience with stuff that I feel is common sense 🙃

Same here. My husband is absolutely amazing and I am so thankful for him but we just don't think the same therefor we do everyday tasks very different. We agree on everything major but he is definitely not as hardwired to be as clean and careful as I am. I get very frustrated but just have to remember that their brains just don't work like ours and that's okay as long as they're making an effort.

My husband is definitely the careful one in our relationship! He is a miracle of a man.

yes yes yes. He really does care and works hard for our family in every way. But sometimes when im alone and I’ve just had it with certain things I have a pretend conversation out loud with him telling him exactly how I feel. And them when he comes home I ask him nicely… 🤣

My husband has always been clean and organized; it’s was very obvious that he had been in the NAVY the first time I went to his place. Everything had a place, super tidy, and organized.

He’s the one that washes/sterilizes all the pump parts and bottles, also does all the diaper laundry (we use cloth diapers).

Oh wow maybe we should all send our men to the navy 😆🥲😂

But yeah I love my hubby so much and he does a ton for our family but he doesn’t have the motherly touch and isn’t as mindful about some things that women would know/.do/wouldn’t do 😅

My husband is super helpful with our girl; taking turns with me to care for her once he's home. One thing that frustrated me with him is that he doesn't automatically anticipate her needs, such as feeding her, when he has her. Seems he just doesnt have that instinct. I plan to step in more when he has her this week to continue training him on the things he should be doing with her when she's fussy. Need to remind him she sometimes cluster feeds on the evenings. You're not alone

I made him read the reply i just wrote and he agrees lol

it could be as simple as teaching him hunger cues! My husband can totally tell when out baby is hungry, has gas or needs a diaper change based on her cues or cries.

My man isn’t as sanitary as me but he’s getting better the more I’m training him what to do

I love my husband but he’s definitely more relaxed with things than I am (cleanliness, child rearing etc). We tend to balance each other out in the end because of it. I will mention that I’ve become somewhat obsessive over cleaning since my son was born. So everything bothers me anyway.

in our community

wtf moment?

I have been going back and forth with my husband lately. Well not lately it’s been years. He is the best husband and father you could ask for; for two weeks. Then he’s inconsistent. It drives me mad. Then he’s back to husband and dad of the year , then back to same inconsistency. I talked to him about this last night and he said “if i was lovey dovey and acted like this all the time you’d get bored and cheat on me.”

Ok so for starters i know some of you are going to say omg omg omg super controlling omg leave omg. No im not doing that. Im happy he finally admitted his wrong doing and taking accountability for it but id like to know the deeper reason, the what the f has him thinking like this reason, the personality trait reason. He’s obviously scared I’m going to leave him; so much so that he’s doing this dumb shit to prevent it. Past trauma? What do y’all think I can do to get him to see I’m not going anywhere? I’m consistent already, I married him, we have a baby. He really is the love of my life. I have never loved another man like this before.. but this shit is for the birds and he thinks he’s keeping me doing this but in actuality it’s making me lose respect and detach.

Divorced at 5 months PP

My husband just divorced me yesterday.

I'm 5 months post partum and I feel like complete shit. I literally can't stop crying and I don't feel like eating and this whole week my milk supply has gone down due to stress and not eating. What helps with milk supply?

The divorce- on Monday at 5am me and my husband had a small argument on text. It was regarding him not catering to my love language. I sent him a video on how women shouldn't have to ask and how laziness can kill a relationship. We've had many arguments regarding this prior about him not catering to my love language and he doesn't buy me flowers or doesn't think of me. Anyways this night, he text me saying he doesn't do Mother's Day and all that, he doesn't want to buy me flowers because my sisters buy me flowers and he can't be arsed with my moods. He said I've not been his peace and said he's done.
I replied "okay. All I want is for you to appreciate me and love me as your wife and mother of your child. I'm not pushing you away, I'm begging you to love me etc etc. I'm done too."

I come home from my errands that morning and he's upped and left. He took all of his belongings, clothes, drawer, tv- everything.

He didn't ring or text me or anything.

The property is in my name and as he left and didn't leave the key, I changed the locks the next day. I feel this is what pushed him over the edge.

He officially divorced me on Saturday.
I'm 5 months post partum and I have a 5 year old from my ex partner too.

I just want to talk about it with someone that's not biased. Was I asking for too much? I feel he just didn't want to be with me anymore and used this as an excuse? Or is that me overthinking....
Input would be nice xoxo

Partner is giving me the silent treatment

So I was struggling with my postpartum anxiety bad yesterday. My partner and I was out for drinks with family. He kept making jokes about treating me a bit shit.
Which no one thought was funny. I am usually quite patient about him using me as his jokes, but yesterday it hurt.

When we got home I told him it made me feel disrespected. Now he is giving me the cold fat shoulder?! What do I do ?

worried about a family members baby

So this child is three months old and she isn’t being fed from 10pm till 6/7 am idk if this is normal or safe and it’s been like this since 2 months i believe as she won’t wake her for feeds she goes to the pub drinking most nights with her baby and her baby has already been in hospital with a very low temperature bc she was outside but as soon as she was in a warm car she warmed up and doctors said she was fine she lets cats play with her bouncers toys that go over her and doesn’t strap her in she is cold from what i’ve heard from other family members and they’ve tried to warm her hands and she’s wet herself at my parents and she hasn’t had a spare vest to put on her and i offered her a blanket as she didn’t have one and she declined and she won’t listen to anyone about it she’s already left the baby with my parents for the night to go out drinking and personally i couldn’t leave my three month old because my parents said she just cried and im really unsure whether to report her or not and her house smells of dog wee/poo as she’s never home to look after them and that’s not safe for the baby i understand being lonely but she doesn’t need to go to the pub every night her friends could
go
to hers or her she could go to a cafe that has closed doors not sat outside a cold pub and it’s a bit of a rough pub in my opinion

my parents are concerned btw but they say i shouldn’t report her as it’s not fair but i feel how the baby is treated isn’t fair

Forgiving a partner…

Long story short - found out 2 months ago my partner of almost 10 years has slept with two girls, one of which he’s been seeing for 8 months - during this time I was pregnant with our third child and gave birth. (She had an abortion)
I found out, he cut all ties (still works with her)
I want to try and move on from this, we have three children , and a home… I can’t face the idea of being without my children half the time. I want to try and make things work. But I can’t stop the intrusive thoughts / images of the two of them together…. Any advice if you’ve been in a similar situation?
Sick of feeling this rubbish, also 5 month pp so hormones/confidence is in pieces😣😣😣

Does anyone else hate their partner?

I’m now a little over 2 months postpartum and I’ve struggled with genuinely just not liking my partner anymore since we found out I was pregnant last year. I catch myself just staring at him with hatred because I’m so sick and tired of his bullshit. He is just now getting a job and has not had one since THANKSGIVING!!! Meanwhile I was working full time until I finally got too sick to be able to work. I genuinely want him out of my house but I depend on him as far as driving goes bc I don’t have a car. I also still love him deep down and don’t want to put him out on the street but he’s driving me genuinely insane. Any advice?